Black Star (Pet Peeve)

[Paul DeLisle]

>Nice to have such consistant personal ethics. Just how do you determine who
>is "inviting it?" People you don't like or disagree with? How convienient.
>In any event, the discussion (until recently) has not consisted of
>"personal attacks" and even then there is something a bit more forthright
>about makiing an honest complaint (which seems to be your definition of a
>"personal attack") in a pulic forum.

Michael, I don't know why I keep doing this (guess I like beating my head
against a wall.) However, I will (once again) attempt to explain this to you. 
        You invite inflammatory comments by being belligerant, abusive,
insulting, petty, and rude. You do this to people who have done nothing to
you other than disagree with you, or object to your abuse of others. This is
(in my observation) a singular case, only involving you. You attempt to
justify these actions under the guise of being "honest". I, personally, know
hundreds of honest people in the SCA, who do not need to resort to such
measures to portray their "honesty". 
        Allow me to point out to you a simple fact of human interaction.
Most people (a least, those who are skilled in basic courtesy) will keep
displays of "negative emotion" private, lest they embarass themselves, or
start rumors, or unwittingly damage another's reputation. You, apparently,
have no sense of embarrassment, nor a care for anyone else's feelings. This
does you no credit. 
        One more thing. The electronic media does not belong to anyone.
Newsgroups, chat areas, IRQ's, and other such areas DO. Every area sets it's
own standards of conduct, and makes that information public, so that no-one
entering that realm will embarass themselves by acting inappropriately. (I
believe someone as learned as you has heard of FAQ's.) You, sir, violate
*our* standards of conduct frequently (and, I believe, willingly; perhaps
even eagerly.) Standards that are determined by the overwhelming majority of
our populace. 
        If we all get together and buy a house, and invite other people into
it; we expect them to behave as we desire. If they do not, they would not be
welcomed back. I am sure that you don't really believe that so many of us
disapprove of you. Or perhaps you don't care. On the off-chance that it's
the former; let's conduct a little experiment. If any of you reading this
thread feel that Michael has violated our "standards", please copy the
following statement, and send it as a  ***PRIVATE***  message to
litch at eden.com   :

           Michael: I feel that your behavior is innapropriate
         for this newsgroup, and wish you would attempt to be 
         more polite, and less abusive. 

If, on the other hand; you think that I'm blowing smoke; please cut and
paste the following (also private):

        Michael, you're doing okay. Don't worry about it.

I don't want an answer, a tally, or any sort of report back. This is purely
for your benefit. However, I've been in this group for awhile, and am fairly
certain of the outcome. If I'm right, Michael, remember; it's OUR house. 



                  In Service, I remain
                  Alden Pharamond
                  Mendersham, Ansteorra