Reply re: Your Blue Feather Concerns

[Galen of Bristol]

Peter Crandall Polk wrote:
> 
> Pug Bainter wrote:
> > Isn't almost every party setting usually boys looking for girls and vice
> > versa? Not only does it happen, but it happens at most events. This is
> > the whole idea behind "social" gatherings. Besides sharing with old
> > friends, we try to make new friends. Once drunk, it usually turns to
> > making new bed friends. *wink*
> 
> What you are saying makes me uncomfortable. And makes me want to express
> something in this discussion. I have attended many "social" functions
> that were not "pick up" oriented. I did make new friends and strengthen
> old ones but I and my friends were not there to "hunt".
> Drinking, at a gathering, is not designed or intended to gather bed
> partners. It is used, by some, to relax and enjoy the escape that
> alchohol gives. Some do it to appreciate the brewer's skill.
> If these are the sum total reasons that you use in order to go to a
> "social" gathering, then I feel sad for you.
> I can see that some people may agree with you. I will admit that at some
> events I have met attractive people that I am interested in. I will also
> say that drinking has led to bed partners. But I will also say that the
> intent of each person is different, and blanket statements that place
> people in little convenient roles hurt the people that do not fit the
> traditional roles in life.
> Crandall
> non sum qualie eram
> I am not what I used to be

Not only do I agree with Crandall's point of view, I believe that it
is shared by the majority of partygoers in the SCA.
-- 
Viscount Galen of Bristol, KSCA, CSM, etc.
Paul Mitchell, pmitchel at flash.net / "noblesse oblige"
http://www.flash.net/~pmitchel/galen.htm