Awards Policy (Househol
Jeanne C. Stapleton
jstaplet at adm.law.du.edu
Wed Jan 22 10:44:31 PST 1997
> Having been in a wide variety of households, I have to say
> that I
> really like them. I have also been in groups where I haven't been
> in a household and sometimes it is a struggle. When I was younger I
> wasn't in any household and a bunch of us single women would go on
> trips together or sit together at feasts.
This a good example of a positive use for a household. I'd like to
emphasize again that households are a double-edged sword, and that
simply making blanket statements like "households shouldn't exist" or
"we must have households" doesn't work. People want company.
Among other things, it's a valuable pooling of resources. I much
prefer going to big events with a solid group of people that I know I
can count on to take their turn at the dishes, etc.
I also felt no problem
> asking friends if I could sit or camp with them. Perhaps that's the
> trick.... asking. If a person is my friend I don't mind asking. If
> I went to an event that I didn't know a lot of people and I felt
> uncomfortable, I went and worked in the Kitchen or helped serve or
> did scribal stuff. (I guess I just avoided the problem that way.)
I do this too. It's great way to meet people. However, I do
sometimes just sit at a table and start talking to the people around
> But I met new people so next time I went to an event I felt better.
> There is no easy solution, just maybe find a creative one.
> I like households because I feel that I always have someone
> that I
> could hang around with or sit with. Also we would mutually help
> each other. It's kinda like a family bond. My household has gotten
> smaller over the years for various reasons, but if anyone ever
> invited a non member to sit with us, we went out of our way to try
> to make them feel welcome. They were our guests.
Right! I agree!
Countess Berengaria de Montfort de Carcassonne, OP
Barony of Caerthe
Kingdom of the Outlands
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