ANST - Chivalry and Politeness...

[mirrim at texas.net]

Pug asked:
>   When "we" talk about chivalric and/or polite behavior, what is
>   meant?
> 
>   Must we always open the door to be chivalrous?
>   Must we always carry the heavy item to be chivalrous?

Another related question:  Is it only men doing these things for 
ladies that makes these actions chivalrous?  I don't think any of 
these questions are always true.  They depend on circumstances.  I 
don't expect a man who has his arms full carrying things to also open 
the door for me if I'm empty-handed.  I feel polite behavior like 
these goes both ways and ladies should offer to help carry things and 
open doors 

>   Must we always say nice things to be polite?
>   Is being polite to someone and then turning around and telling
>     unfavorable stories about them chivalric behavior?
>   Or is it only unchivalric when you intentionally spread
>   rumors/stories
>     (founded or not) in a similar circumstance?
>   If I sit at home and complain to my wife about So-and-So's
>   behavior,
>     but I am polite to them when I talk to them, am I being truly
>     being polite or just two-faced?

You don't have to always say nice things to be polite, "Silence is
golden".  There is a difference when you're talking to your closest
friends in private and talking about someone to acquaintances or anyone
who'll listen.

Mirrim

"Practice principled acts of self-interest and ruthless logic"
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