ANST - Chivalry and Politeness...
mirrim at texas.net
mirrim at texas.net
Sat Jun 27 01:32:45 PDT 1998
Pug asked:
> When "we" talk about chivalric and/or polite behavior, what is
> meant?
>
> Must we always open the door to be chivalrous?
> Must we always carry the heavy item to be chivalrous?
Another related question: Is it only men doing these things for
ladies that makes these actions chivalrous? I don't think any of
these questions are always true. They depend on circumstances. I
don't expect a man who has his arms full carrying things to also open
the door for me if I'm empty-handed. I feel polite behavior like
these goes both ways and ladies should offer to help carry things and
open doors
> Must we always say nice things to be polite?
> Is being polite to someone and then turning around and telling
> unfavorable stories about them chivalric behavior?
> Or is it only unchivalric when you intentionally spread
> rumors/stories
> (founded or not) in a similar circumstance?
> If I sit at home and complain to my wife about So-and-So's
> behavior,
> but I am polite to them when I talk to them, am I being truly
> being polite or just two-faced?
You don't have to always say nice things to be polite, "Silence is
golden". There is a difference when you're talking to your closest
friends in private and talking about someone to acquaintances or anyone
who'll listen.
Mirrim
"Practice principled acts of self-interest and ruthless logic"
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