ANST - Question...

[Timothy of Glastonbury]

---Fox Anton Purtill <fpurtill at simpletel.com> wrote:
>
> Tempers are an interesting beast Pug.  Once you find one it tends to
have
> the effect of duplicating itself in someone else and then they
immediately
> attack each other.
> 
> I often say things incorrectly, and I know what I meant and wanted
to get
> across but it just didn't come out that way to the person I was
saying it
> to.  It's not that I said anything wrong from my point of view, but
from
> theirs.  This inflames the temper on their side and gets both upset.
> 
> In this sense above, I did no wrong per se, but it still ended up in
anger.
> 
> Who is to correct?  Myself for not being able to interpret how my
words will
> affect the person I'm speaking to? Or the person getting mad at me
for not
> understanding what I was trying to say?

<snip ... snip>

> 
> If one must seek to fix or currect someone, calmly take it up with
them
> first,
> if they refuse to see the wrong and you feel there still needs a
lesson of
> some sort, take it to someone close to them and see if they can
grasp the
> problem.  Failing that the best to do is leave it be, because you have
> tried.


The Society is about the strive for the ideal of chivalry (amoung
other things).  Chilvary does not have a temper, Chivalry does not
have foolish pride.  If your words have been misinterpretted by
someone, then you should go and ask them to forgive you.  You use an
apology to convey in no uncertain terms exactly what you meant and
request their forgivnance for mis-speaking originally.

Don't think you mispoke? Want to make that clear? To Bad. That is
nothing more than foolish pride wanting to say "I'm right, your
wrong!" and that is not what Chivalry is about at all.

This is an ideal, not realty ... but is it so hard a part of Chivalry
that we cannot master it?  There is more to Chivalry than that which
we see all them time (upon the tourney field and when ladies have
heavy loads).

Timothy of Glastonbury
In the Grand Scheme a rank newcomer
but still Minister of A&S for the 
Incp. College of Three Bridges
Vivat the Dream!
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