ANST - Good rules of thumb in this modern age.

[karl muller]

thank you for your wise words. i for one will keep them in mind.


>From: "Bryon Byers" <phantom at camalott.com>
>To: "Ansteorra" <ansteorra at Ansteorra.ORG>
>Subject: ANST - Good rules of thumb in this modern age.
>Date: Thu, 4 Feb 1999 01:08:27 -0600
>Reply-To: ansteorra at Ansteorra.ORG
>
>Greetings All,
>
>    Out of Personae for just a moment I would just like to share with
>everyone who might still be getting used to this modern age of such 
speedy
>communication and correspondence. For the time I have been online, 
which
>goes all the way back to text Bulletin Board Services I have found 
these
>rules of thumb, have helped immensely.
>
>1. If I come across something that offends me or makes me angry, I yell 
and
>scream rant and rave, because I am human ( I do not reply immediately). 
Then
>I re-read what was written slowly and carefully to ensure it says what 
I
>think it says.
>
>2. I sometimes have to play my own Devil's Advocate and remind myself, 
that
>with this form of communication there is nothing other than words and
>punctuation to convey another person's views and meanings. Were I to 
talk to
>this person either via Telephone or person to person, I have SO MUCH 
more
>information at my disposal to decipher their idea or views. Such as;
>Inflection, Volume, Attitude, Body Language, etc. While this media 
restricts
>much of this. It also leaves the message that is trying to be conveyed 
to
>much interpretation by the recipient.
>
>3. This media is So convenient. It allows us to send messages to one 
another
>at such speeds over great distances. [when the Internet Gods are 
pleased
>:) ] This is in some ways a major drawback to this. For we have the
>opportunity to respond to things while we are EXCITED about them. We 
are
>human beings and we have emotions, it is what makes us human. When 
people
>get mad ( which everybody in the world has been mad at least once in 
their
>life) they might say something they might not mean, or really REGRET 
after
>they clam down or are informed that they misinterpreted what was being 
said.
>So if something offends, I take time to think about a response and 
reply
>after I have calmed down, if a reply is really necessary at all.
>
>4. I have also found that there are quite a few people online (not 
everyone
>but a few), sometimes tend to say ALOT more than they would ever say in
>person, and thus usually being quite crass at times. I call this the
>"Online-loss-of-Tact" Syndrome. It is something folks new to the 
internet
>need to be aware of.
>
>So in short, I think we should try to understand where the other person 
is
>coming from, for if we do not we have no way of communicating 
effectively.
>Also, if after that you must make a reply that is retaliatory or 
reactive,
>try to ensure that your message cannot be taken any other way, 
re-reading
>your reply and what you are replying to a few times. Definitely try to 
reply
>after your emotions are not at their peak.
>
>And the big one: Once you have sent out a message in such a form as 
this
>(written, and this forum being viewed by so many people), you have just
>plastered the sign to your forehead, you better be ready to wear it. 
Because
>neither Crow nor Foot tastes good.
>
>I'm terribly sorry for this rambling, I felt compelled to post this 
after
>the past few months of message content on the list. I thank you ever so 
much
>for your time, I now return you to your regularly scheduled Middle 
Ages.
>
>Vivat Rex!
>Vivat Regina!
>Vivat Ansteorra!
>
>In Service to Ansteorra and The Dream,
>Magnus von Mendersham
>
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