[Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....

[cehuse]

M'lord,

You (nor would anyone else) would never be shot down in my presence for
assisting myself or any other lady. I find it rather flattering (and it makes me
feel very special...major warm fuzzies!) when a lord walks up to me and asks to
assist me.

But, I think that we overlook our children as helpers. Here in Elfsea, we have a
youth guard (any child that asks to join is in) and yes we work them! They help
stand guard at court (my 8 year old son takes this very seriously...don't
believe me? take a look at the expression on his face when he is guarding our
Baron and Baroness.. ;-) ), they help us with setup and tear-down.

Diane and Ryan (my children) got their Rising Stars last summer at the ages of 7
and 8! Why? They help water-bear, with setup and tear-down, unloading the truck
after an event, Ryan helps heavy fighters with their armor and weapons, etc.
Children are amazing helpers (even as toddlers) and many are very eager to help
in any way they can....it also helps to keep them out of trouble because of
boredom at events.

Yours in Service..
Maria

*** St. Theresa's Prayer ****
May today there be peace within
May you trust your highest power that you are exactly where you are meant to
be....
May you not forget the infinite possibilities that are born of faith
May you use those gifts that you have received, and pass on the love that has
been given to you....
May you be content knowing you are a child of God....
Let this presence settle into our bones, and allow your soul the freedom to
sing, and dance,
It is there for each and every one of you....

> -----Original Message-----
> Good ladies and all who read this,
>
> Sorry, but I've got to step in here. I don't know how many times I've
> offered to help a lady carry something only to be rebuffed. I've had
> actually had women get offended that I offered to help, telling me that they
> were *quite* capable of carrying something without a man's assistance. Which
> is it? Should we offer or not? How can we tell that you want help or don't?
> Body language doesn't do it, by the way - men, in general, aren't good at
> interpreting it.
>
> There have also been several occasions where I've helped various women carry
> various things throughout the day, only to be called down and criticized on
> the one time that I didn't see a lady with a burden or was unable to help.
> It seems to me that I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't and will be
> criticized either way.
>
> Awaiting the fire,
> Pendaran