[Ansteorra] Re: Ansteorra digest, Vol 1 #296 - 9 msgs
Aurore at hot.rr.com
Wed Jan 2 14:43:36 PST 2002
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Lady Viviana, that was beautifully said. But I may have something of a simpler idea. I've seen the SCA community as a whole take care of the childern that are born into the Society or their parents got to us as soon as possible. Newbies are just like the childern. We have to make sure they are taught their manners, habits, and how to make things the old-fashion ways. My oldest is now old enough to be going to his first event this month and I'm going to be answering alot of questions. Now does a first-time child not going to be like a newbie. I've been in for 7 years now. My introduction to the SCA was a member trying to get me to calm down from wanting to take a sledgehammer to the computer lab at the college (couldn't get a program to work) I went to, by telling me stories from this very wierd group that did medival recreation. For about 4 months, that is how I learned about the SCA before I went to my first event. First event, being a pretty newbie, I was never short of gentlemen answering my questions and the kitchen took me up on my offer of being kitchen help. The kitchen in my opinion is the best place to learn some of stuff about the SCA. Alot depends on how much the newbie comes in with information about the SCA or if they were on the spur of the moment curiousty and are just like the childern that are in the SCA. At one time or another we were all newbies, and we had to learn to crawl first, before learning to lift a rattan sword and swing it. I may not hold an office or be of nobility, but I still watch out for the children and newbies, and take care of everyone too. Rereading this, it may seem a little confusing, I type as I think, but this is how I think about taking care of newbies.
VIVAT ANSTEORRA! Aurore
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Thank you for your responses.
I appreciate your thoughts and replies. I think due to life and Society
experiences some of what I meant to say may have been interpreted differently
when compared to what I meant in my own mind, thoughts and experiences. This
is a good thing. It means people have thought about what I and others are
writing and applied it to their own lives and experiences. Even though we
all dwell in the same Dream, our experiences and how we interpret them are
all unique, as it should be.
Please understand that I would not presume that monitorship should be the
soul or major responsibility of nobility, nor would I feel it was appropriate
for nobility or hospitallers to tackle that responsibility alone. Only that
they might consider participating. They are busy folks and accomplish more
than most of us would hope to able to accomplish in five life times.
Now to continue my thoughts. How many new folks should a mentor take on
anyway? Surely not more than one person at a time, and surely not one right
after the other. That can be a burn out waiting to happen. I feel as
Lightfoot put it, that the job belongs to all members. However, I plead that
nobles might consider playing a part for many reasons. One important reason
being; it would send out the message to everyone that they are approachable.
What would it mean to a new person for a noble to mentor him or her? What
would it mean to a noble to mentor a new member? What might a noble person
learn from a new comer? The experience might end up to be rewarding and
educational for all parties involved, allowing for the occasional disaster of
course. O course, consider the occasional disaster will happen rather the
mentor be a Nobel or Society member.
How much time would be involved? What kind of commitment would it mean? I
suppose that would be up to the individual mentor and what they feel is
appropriate of the personal demands on their time. For most it would
probably involve a few months of answering questions and active participation
in another person's Society life. And then you either have made a new
friend, or the new person has become assimilated enough to have made new
bonds with other Society members.
Monitorship is just a thought to be considered. It might be right for some
groups and inappropriate for others. Even if a group is not interested in
the monitorship approach, individuals can always extend a helping hand, and
take a personal involvement approach in a new person's Societal life.
"Damage control," I agree there are those who probably would not do very well
in this area. However, as many officers can tell you, mistakes often have
natural consequences, which can be excellent learning tools. Personally, I
would rather see someone trying, and not doing a very good job, than the
Society be loosing members because there was no attempt made at all.
Mistakes are made everyday. Is the area of damage control any different?
There are those who just need the opportunity to learn, and sometimes that
comes in the form of mistakes. Sometimes it comes in the form of talent.
However, some of us are not as talented in feather smoothing as others, but
that doesn't mean we can't learn. Nor should we not be afforded the
opportunity to learn due to the fear of making mistakes. If this were true,
non of us would be raising a sword, or taking an office, managing events, or
accepting the responsibilities that comes with accepting awards and peerage.
Try looking at it this way; either way, "trying" or "avoiding" we take the
chance of loosing members, which way would be more to the benefit of the
individuals, groups, or the Society?
Thank you once again for reading what I have written; for agreeing or
disagreeing. Either way, we all become stronger members, for thinking about
and considering what each other has to say.
A last note. In editing what I have written, perhaps it is time to put my own
fears aside, take my own words to heart, and begin to become involved again.
A new place, a new life, new people to meet. The side lines have become
comfortable, time to leave the comfort zone. Even though I may put it aside
from time to time, the Dream never dies once it becomes so much a part of
Good life, and Good Dream be with you,
Play well my friends.
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