[Ansteorra] Awards and Manners Was--> Things to think about....

[Bob Dewart]

I said they were gifts from your friends that the Crown gets the pleasure of
presenting.

Thank you for all "you" do.

Gilli
----- Original Message -----
From: "CE Huse/Lady Maria Cabeca de Vaca" <cehuse at sbcglobal.net>
To: <ansteorra at ansteorra.org>
Sent: Thursday, July 25, 2002 1:26 AM
Subject: [Ansteorra] Awards and Manners Was--> Things to think about....


> Hola!
>
> I have been watching this thread with some interest the past couple of
days.
> Awards have become a touchy subject for me lately.
>
> I have been playing for only 3 years now. Every event I go to, I work my
> rear end off. I have washed dishes, watched and fed other people's
children,
> water-beared, I've 2 offices consecutively, for a time I Chirurgeoned, and
> even stepped up when there was a needed for a hand in other folks
campsites.
> I got my AoA before my 12 month anniversary. Why did I do all this work?
Was
> it for an award? Was it for "political power"? No and No. I did it because
I
> thought that my hard work was appreciated and I looked forward to someone
> saying a simple "thanks".
>
> That was over two years ago. I have still worked my butt off at several
> events and only 2 people have said thank you. I have even watched as my 8
> year son and 9 year old daughter worked so very hard at events too and not
> been thanked...this hurts me deeply. This is just bad manners folks and
> there is no excuse for bad manners! To be truthful, I'm sick and tired of
> working so very hard just to have the people I have helped turn their
backs
> and walk off. I joined the SCA because I thought I would meet kind,
generous
> and polite people. This hurts me to ask this but...Was I wrong in this
> assumption?
>
> Awards are pieces of paper (some come with little bits of leather, metal
or
> cloth to hang on your clothes) that mean alot to those in the SCA. But
what
> do they mean to the mundane world that we must live in? Not a thing. I
agree
> with Gilli, awards are gifts. But what I don't agree with is that they are
> gifs from the crown. They are gifts from your friends and acquaintances
> because it is your friends and acquaintances that recommend you for an
> award. Without them, the crown would never know what you have done.
>
> I have been watching the last few years as people have left and those that
> have just quit working events because they weren't thanked for their hard
> work. If we want more people helping with events or getting help with your
> personal items, then it is high time we start using a bit of manners and
say
> a simple thank you to those who have helped you.
>
> I'm sorry that this post has come off a bit brusque, but this has just hit
a
> sore spot with me.
>
> Yours in Service,
> Maria