[Ansteorra] courtly love and manners

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>I wonder if the Courtly Love ideal begun by Eleanor of Aquitaine might  not
>have had such gentlemanly ideals?
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>Ciard

         Actually not really.  The concept of Courtly Love which is linked 
to the whole troubadour thing, etc.  has nothing to do with being nice and 
being well-mannered.  It was about love, between a man and woman and often 
the man never spoke to the woman in question.  I think instead, those 
ideals were actually developed more by the Victorians (those wonderful 
people who were a major contributor to the SCA).  If you get into the whole 
Code of Courtly Love, (and I suggest that Her Grace Duchess Willow knows 
far more than I do about the subject), manners and courtesty to women have 
very little to do with it.

Clare