[Ansteorra] What are we here for?

[Lisa May]

I had to grin when I read Lady Maria's admission of feeling all "gooshy"
inside when one of our gallants acts gallantly!  I well remember the first
time I was treated like a fragile flower and a lady of the highest estate,
during my first event back in 1990.  Maria's absolutely right.  I blushed, I
stammered, I felt more special than I'd felt in years, and "gooshy" is the
perfect word for that warm feeling I felt for the rest of the day.  While I
always appreciate being offered such courtesies, in thinking about it, I
believe I've allowed myself to become a bit blase about it over the years,
and that's so very wrong!

To all you gentlemen out there who have offered your arms, your strong backs
and your gallant attentions to ladies over the years, please know how very
much it is appreciated by us.  Gunther's posting should be a wake-up call to
all of us to pay more attention to the things that make our time at events
so different from our lives during the week - not just the obvious things
like clothing and activities, but the courtesies and the gentle flirting and
the chivalrous behavior that add to the experience of being a noble lady or
gentleman in our current middle ages.  I promise I'll do so!

Maggie

Countess Margaret ny Connor
Barony of the Steppes
Kingdom of Ansteorra

On 10/2/06, Christine/Maria <casadevaca at charter.net> wrote:
>
> Very well said Your Grace!  I feel all gooshy inside when a man takes my
> things carries them for me.  It makes me smile and it makes me
> blush....because it makes me feel like a true lady and it is soooo
> romantic.  I still remember the feeling when HE Airaklee came up to me
> at my first event and took my tiny little basket from me (saying "A lady
> should never carry a burden") and escorted me to my seat.  I was not
> only speechless (yup Maria was speechless...lol) but I felt placed on a
> pedestal for a short moment and it made me feel very special.
>
> Men like you and Airaklee have special place in my heart and you hold a
> place of honor and deep respect in my eyes.  For this is what the SCA is
> about Honor, Courtesy and Respect.
>
> Lady Maria Cabeca de Vaca
>
> Michael Gunter wrote:
> > After the discussion last week about personna and cookies
> > and all of that I decided I would like to toss this point out
> > as well.
> >
> > The Society is a place where honor, courtesy and chivalry
> > are not to be the exception but the rule. In the modern
> > world if I were to go to a complete stranger and ask to
> > help her with the huge load of groceries she was carrying
> > she would probably call the cops on me. In our Society it
> > is expected to assist anyone in need. Unfortunately we
> > tend to forget this very basic and defining foundation.
> > Too often we are all busy in what we are doing and don't
> > notice what we SHOULD be doing. I've been just as
> > guilty as everyone else in this.
> >
> > This weekend I was sitting under a pavillion with HG
> > Patrick-Michael, King Martin of Trimaris and others when
> > we looked up to see a lady hauling a table over to the
> > area where the fighters were doing pickups. Nobody
> > stopped to assist her. I got up (accidentally clanging
> > my armored kneecop into HG's unarmored knee. Sorry
> > Your Grace!) and carried it the last few feet for her.
> > She was bringing water to the fighters and got no
> > help.
> >
> > I know we are tired, I know we are busy, I also know
> > that our ladies are very capable of taking care of themselves.
> > But we need to remember basic courtisies and that includes
> > helping those that need help. I don't care if it is man or
> > woman, child or duke. Remember to offer assistance.
> > Remember that courtesy extends to the site we have
> > for the weekend. Pick up your cigarett butts, clean up
> > your area and help the autocrats for after you are gone.
> >
> > This is as much a reminder to myself as it is to everyone
> > else because I've been just as guilty. Our Society is
> > BETTER than the one where we go to work every week
> > and we have to keep it that way.
> >
> > Thank you.
> >
> > Gunthar
> >
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