[Ansteorra] What are we here for?

[Aingeal]

As the Lady that you are speaking about, I want to personally thank you for 
the act of chivalry that you bestowed upon me by carrying that table and the 
example that you set for others in the Society.  I admired the courtesy that 
was shown by deciding to assist me over your own need to rest. But I want to 
express the other side of that point. If someone offers assistance the 
recipient has the responsibility to accept the act graciously. As I was 
mentored by Baroness Alys Carvelsdatter, she always told us young ladies to 
remember that when we attend an event it is not the 20th century and to 
accept those acts with grace and to show appreciation to the individual. She 
then told us that if we declined the offer we discourage those individuals 
and after they have been turned down a number of times they eventually quit 
offering their  assistance. May this serve as a reminder for all of us that 
participate in the society.

Aingeal Mac an Ghabhann




----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Michael Gunter" <countgunthar at hotmail.com>
To: <ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Monday, October 02, 2006 11:11 AM
Subject: [Ansteorra] What are we here for?


> After the discussion last week about personna and cookies
> and all of that I decided I would like to toss this point out
> as well.
>
> The Society is a place where honor, courtesy and chivalry
> are not to be the exception but the rule. In the modern
> world if I were to go to a complete stranger and ask to
> help her with the huge load of groceries she was carrying
> she would probably call the cops on me. In our Society it
> is expected to assist anyone in need. Unfortunately we
> tend to forget this very basic and defining foundation.
> Too often we are all busy in what we are doing and don't
> notice what we SHOULD be doing. I've been just as
> guilty as everyone else in this.
>
> This weekend I was sitting under a pavillion with HG
> Patrick-Michael, King Martin of Trimaris and others when
> we looked up to see a lady hauling a table over to the
> area where the fighters were doing pickups. Nobody
> stopped to assist her. I got up (accidentally clanging
> my armored kneecop into HG's unarmored knee. Sorry
> Your Grace!) and carried it the last few feet for her.
> She was bringing water to the fighters and got no
> help.
>
> I know we are tired, I know we are busy, I also know
> that our ladies are very capable of taking care of themselves.
> But we need to remember basic courtisies and that includes
> helping those that need help. I don't care if it is man or
> woman, child or duke. Remember to offer assistance.
> Remember that courtesy extends to the site we have
> for the weekend. Pick up your cigarett butts, clean up
> your area and help the autocrats for after you are gone.
>
> This is as much a reminder to myself as it is to everyone
> else because I've been just as guilty. Our Society is
> BETTER than the one where we go to work every week
> and we have to keep it that way.
>
> Thank you.
>
> Gunthar
>
>
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