[Ansteorra] Public Thank You

Mon Feb 19 19:55:23 PST 2007

Joshua,

Just wanted to tell you that you are not alone...

Personally, I was diagnosed with ADD a little over 2 years ago...it got worse the older I got and the more stress I was under... 

I also have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder... combined, these things have made my life very difficult. It took me 15 years to get a Bachelors because of it... longer than it took me to get my Peerage (14 years)...I was actually trying for my Bachelors and not for my peerage... go figure...

I've been in the SCA for about half of my life...I'm 43 now and have been in 21 years...

In the SCA I've learned alot...the SCA is great for enculturating Geeks... 
and great for people with ADD to learn how to adapt... I learned alot of the things 
that I didn't learn when I should have because of my messed up childhood/alcoholic family/etc.

Since you have problems with the written word...this is not the best forum for you to learn about the SCA... you really do need to find your local SCA group and get involved. With your form of the disorder... it is much better for you to have hands-on and in-person teaching/relating. And truely...it's really that way with everyone... the net is...the net... it's just a common medium of exchange and the SCA is an inperson thing... Face to Face... Side by Side... Back to Back...

You will find lots of people in the SCA who have ADD, have Personality Disorders, have Mood Disorders, have behavioural Disorders...etc...
many of them are very successful, intelligent people. Many of them
are also wonderful, loving and still messed up...

And from one messed up child to another...
you will never have the life you want if you identify as a victim.
It's up to you to make the best of what you've got...
I've been doing alot of research... and if you want help
in coping with your disorder... just ask...

Heck... at this point I'm seriously considering going back and
getting my Master's in Psych and my LPC... 
I spend most of my time at events doing informal counseling... 
might as well validate it with a shingle;)

And yes my eloquence is lacking at times...

I just find that often with soft words we end up enabling people to
maintain their co-dependancy... and it becomes an endless cycle
of soft encouragement...and allowing people to fail...which leads to
more co-dependancy...etc...and I really want people to succeed!

Very much in my life...I have to marshal myself to attempt to maintain
the integrity of what I say in ratio to what I do... it's too easy to get
distracted and procrastinate...and end up on in the deficit...
letting my alligator mouth over load my hummingbird ass...

Lorraine DeerSlayer

Lightfootcim at aol.com wrote: Joshua,

First of all, please let me say that I agree with Her Grace, Willow, and  
Caterena whole-heartedly about their comments on patience and how we deal with  
questions asked in less than an eloquent manner.  I do, however, have a few  
observations in this case:

1.  For the most part, the people that have answered your current  topic have 
been nice about it and have been helpful in answering your  question.  They 
have given suggestions and have even pointed out where on  the iternet you can 
get a clear, concise answer.  The one reply that  *could* have been taken 
wrong even had some helpful advice in it.

2.  Remember, people are only human.  Most people are as nice to  you as you 
are to them.  You post questions to the list, and then find some  reason to 
argue with people over points that have nothing to do with the  original 
requests.  Whether people answer your posts directly or not, they  read them and 
remember how you acted on other posts.  Take this post for  example.  In your last 
reply, you said, "Prity much any of the "keyboard  warriors" need to leave me 
alone from hear on out other wise I will need to  report the to the correct 
SCA officials."  Right there you are threatening  the same people you are 
asking help from.  I try to be a calm man and not  let much get under my skin.  My 
first instinct is to not help you.   People do not respond well to threats.  
They never have, and never  will.  Again, it's being human.  We want to help 
you, but these kinds  of turns in your posts are not the way to get the help 
that YOU are asking  for.

A while back, you included your MySpace page on one of your posts to one of  
our lists.  I looked it up.  If you are really living in Washington,  like 
your page says, you might want to go to _www.sca.org_ (http://www.sca.org)  and 
look under the appropriate kingdom  to see what group is located nearest to 
your area. If you live in  Ansteorra, which is most of Texas and Oklahoma, then 
let us know and  we can point you in the right direction on who you can contact 
to answer your  questions about who to contact for fighting topics. 

Just my 2 cents,

HL John Lightfoot

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