[Ansteorra] Question 2/22

[Peter Holland]

Look I was was taught a long time ago titles are good for court, and for
adding color to our dream.   I can see what Lorane(it is early sorry about
spelling) was saying, but I can understand the other points too.   If it
office related or the communication is on a subject (fighting, armor,
bardic, A&S, whatever) an appropriate title could or should be referenced
just to avoid confusion. But when push comes to shove I was taught good folk
M'Lord or M'lady should work for the highest and lowest of us for we are all
gentle folk, or we try our best.   That is my two cents (Free advice is
worth what was paid for it) Ld Svipdagr  FbBj, SC, Awarded Best Corpus:
Tourney of the Golden Stag La March Savage

On 2/22/07, Faelan Caimbeul <faelancaimbeul at gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Personally, I almost never use my title, ever. Granted, I'm only a Lord,
> but
> still. My Lady does the same and ended up with two AoAs because of it. She
> just got her second one at 12th Night. Her first was from a couple years
> ago
> in the West, but since she didn't advertise the fact, she got dubbed
> again.
>
> On the flip side, my AoA go delayed for a while due to informality because
> everyone assumed I already had it. Two years later it came to light that I
> didn't and then almost immediately got it. So fair warning to the newly
> displaced, get on the OP ASAP and advertise a little when you first arrive
> until people start to know who you are ;-)
>
> Despite the confusion, I still don't use titles much, except with official
> business and requests, or with someone I'm not on familiar terms with. In
> my
> experience your friends and regular companions usually prefer just being
> called by their name anyway, without the title. But, if you're asking the
> King for something, Your Majesty would always be appropriate due to his
> rank, friend or not. Likewise, if asking your compatriot, who also happens
> to be a Duchess and the Regional Seneschal, a question that concerns her
> official capacity, Your Grace would be a good start. I'll then sign with
> Lord, and if the response comes back without titles included, I don't use
> them in response on that issue from that point on, either.
>
> Of course, there are also people that use them almost habitually, which is
> period practice, courteous and always appropriate, especially when
> addressing someone of higher rank. There are also those that use them
> because they are rightfully proud of their accomplishments. That's great
> too. I've just never been that formal about anything if I can help it.
>
> Just my two cents. It's an interesting question.
>
> Faelan
>
> On 2/22/07, Zubeydah Jamilla al-Badawiyya <zubeydah at northkeep.org> wrote:
> >
> > I appreciate it when folks of the Peerage and Nobility and Grant level
> use
> > their titles, because it helps newcomers not make a social gaffe when
> > corresponding or meeting folks for the first time.
> >
> > When I was pretty new to Ansteorra, I'd seen someone sign their emails
> > very
> > casually - just their first name. When I began corresponding with them,
> I
> > did not use the correct form of address ( I used 'Milady' not knowing
> any
> > better), and was gently chastized for it. I was mortified.
> >
> > Now, I try and look folks up in the online OP before emailing, so as not
> > to
> > make that embarassing mistake again. Had I ever seen a title in an
> email,
> > it
> > would have flagged me to check to make sure I was addressing this person
> > correctly, when asking them for their help.
> >
> > -Zubeydah Jamilla al-Badawiyya
> >
> >
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