[Ansteorra] Fw: [Burkhaven] bad stuff here in the east

[Genevria di Betto]

I have a close family member who was molested twice as a child.  Both of 
those men were in long term marriages and had children of their own.  One 
was a retired grandfatherly type, and the other was the father of her best 
friend.

I know we all like to think we know how to keep our kids safe and that this 
would never happen to us, but it is not true.  The best we can do is take as 
many precautions as possible.

I do not know these parents, so maybe they are just out for the money, but 
maybe they are just acting out of fear and anger.  It is natural to want to 
strike out when you or a loved one has been hurt so deeply.  This family 
needs our prayers and sympathy; not our condemnation.  Perhaps we should 
take this opportunity to examine our policies and how they are implemented. 
Do our policies protect the children, or just the SCA?


Genevria, formerly known as Dagmar


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Matthias the Brewer" <matthiasthebrewer at cox.net>
To: "'Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc.'" <ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Saturday, May 12, 2007 11:00 PM
Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] Fw: [Burkhaven] bad stuff here in the east


> What is wrong with being a single man?  Does this automatically make me a
> child molester?  Really?
>
> For the record, any child would be very safe in my house.  And I rather
> resent the implication to the contrary simply because I'm single.
>
> Matthias the Single
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: ansteorra-bounces at lists.ansteorra.org
> [mailto:ansteorra-bounces at lists.ansteorra.org] On Behalf Of Eric Dickey
> Sent: Saturday, May 12, 2007 11:13 PM
> To: Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc.
> Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] Fw: [Burkhaven] bad stuff here in the east
>
> Elspeth wrote:
>>
>
> "Much as I love the friends I have made in the SCA, I am pretty particular
>> where my
>> kids spend the night.
>>
>> Maybe I just think differently, but I know where my kids are, and it is
>> not
>> spending the night at a single man's house."
>
>
>
> Believe me, you are not alone in your thinking on this.  As the father of
> two small girls, (4 and 8) My wife and I would never allow them to stay at 
> a
> single man's house, period.  We both agreed that we have to know the
> parent(s) of the children where they do go, and only allow the oldest to
> spend the night with those we absolutely trust.
>
> The parents in this case have to take some of the blame here, in my 
> opinion.
>
> Dietrich
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