[Ansteorra] on leaving the SCA--

[Bree Flowers]

Okay, clearly I am being misunderstood. I really don't get it. I don't
understand how one person saying "I should be freely able to apply
this horrible moniker to my friends" and someone else saying "because
it's both out-of-period and hurtful" is a bad thing. I didn't say that
anything else in their message was wrong. Feel free to embrace the
rest of it and enjoy.

When someone says "not being allowed to use this hurtful term in jest
is spoiling my fun", I'm put in mind of the popular kids in school who
would have said that calling many of us "geeks and losers" (and worse
things I'm sure) was just them having fun. If what you are doing is
hurtful to someone else, and if fun can be had without it, then I
don't get why anyone would defend it as "okay". It's not "political
correctness" to say that the term is inappropriate. If you want to
compare it to any modern movement it's more like anti-bullying.
Because that's what is going on when you call someone a "period nazi",
you're trying to make them feel bad about the thing that brings them
joy.

We don't call our friends whores, despots or murderers, so why do we
call any of them nazis? I mean unless they actually were members of
that political movement and participated in the mass genocides, in
which case have at it.

~Astridr

On Tue, Feb 5, 2013 at 5:12 PM, Sir Chiang <chiang at clearwire.net> wrote:
> I would say that sounds a bit harsh, and overly sarcastic. Maybe it was not
> meant that way but it sure reads like that.
>  I know that stuff like what you have written has made me question why I put
> so much into this game. I too mourn the lose of so many people that I looked
> up to and set the examples for me to follow.
>  Lately I have been asking myself why I keep at it, best answer I can give
> myself is that I have put too much investment in it and made some promises
> that have yet to be fulfilled. When are accomplished, I will probably
> rethink a lot too.
> Your humble servant,
> Sir Chiang
>
> ----- Original Message ----- From: "Bree Flowers" <evethejust at gmail.com>
>
> To: "Kingdom of Ansteorra - SCA, Inc." <ansteorra at lists.ansteorra.org>
> Sent: Tuesday, February 05, 2013 5:00 PM
>
> Subject: Re: [Ansteorra] on leaving the SCA--
>
>
>> Wow, really? Someone saying their feelings were hurt and that the
>> dream was tarnished was inspirational but someone else suggesting that
>> we treat our friends with respect and kindness and that being "period"
>> isn't a daunting task, and doesn't require hours of research but
>> simply a little bit of effort in the moment saps your will to
>> participate? Interesting.
>>
>> ~Astridr
>
>
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