[Bryn-gwlad] 'scuse me while I get on this soapbox

[Robin Craig]

So, on this note, I am going to try to broach a VERY sensitive  
subject.  Please be advised that I am not trying to be rude or point  
any fingers at anyone.    However, having witnessed several young  
potential members leave due to this, I feel it is something we at  
least need to be aware of.

Women in their 20s trying to join the SCA often complain about being  
'hit on' and more than just a little.   When they get creeped out or  
feel threatened, they leave.  When they leave, the men in their 20s  
often follow.

I will simply leave it at that.

-Robin



On Jul 7, 2006, at 5:31 PM, Nadine Latief wrote:

> Oh my. I'm not the only one with tact issues here :-)
>
> Anyways, smoke and flames aside, I think we should not get diverted
> by the actual issue that Lazlo raised, into debates of whether old
> people have value. That's just stupid.
>
> He does raise a good point, a majority of people in Bryn Gwlad (I'm
> not going to say SCA since there's many SCA college groups out there,
> it's how I started in Myrkfaelinn) are over their thirties, and are
> married, or divorced, with children.
>
> I'll be an example of how age affects membership:
>
> I made a conscious decision sometime last fall to reduce my SCA
> activities partly because I decided that after years of not hanging
> out with people my age, i do want to hang out with my peer group.
> Also, in the SCA, I found myself dating older men, one of them was
> about 14 years older then me, and I know I'm not the only young
> female in the SCA who had such discrepency in age in relationships.
> I'm not saying it's necessarily bad. But I'm not going to say it was
> necessarily the best either.
>
> And whether it's shallow or not, generally, when you're in your
> twenties and not married, dating is pretty important :-) And give me
> a break, I know many of you play because your partner is a SCAdian.
> And if your partner is not SCAdian, you'd likely play less. If I'm
> currently dating a peer, I'd probably be more active in the SCA right
> now. But I'm dating a non-SCAdian, who thinks I'm intensely dorky for
> being in the SCA. So I only emerge when he's busy, or when I get  
> SCA cravings.
>
> So yes, let's celebrate our 40's, 50's and 70's crowd. But please,
> please, get more people in their 20's in Bryn Gwlad who don't have
> parents in the SCA.
>
> Make the dating pool more attractive in the SCA for people of all  
> ages!
>
>    Lowrie -- login to scamatch.com for your next girlfriend!
>
>
>
>
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