ES - Courtesy & Other Things

Axel , Jeanmaire & Diane Remes remes at
Wed May 27 06:28:51 PDT 1998

Jeanmaire here again!

I just downloaded another 15 messages!  What amazes me is the number of messages posted early in the morning - between 6 & 7.  You all are just so dedicated!

I just want to say that, in regards to showing respect and using titles, I have noticed that the people of this Barony are always very respectful to their Baron and Baroness.  I ALWAYS hear Llewelyn & Zara Zina addressed as "Your Excellency", even under the most mundane of circumstances, such as "Your Excellency, where you you like your tent set up?"  On the other hand, I seriously wonder if people are even aware that the Viscounty (of which we seem to have a disproportionate amount) are also to be addressed as "Your Excellency".   I, myself, almost never am, nor have I noticed Axel or Galen being addressed in that fashion except very rarely.  (Galen, am I wrong on this, or what?)  For my own part, I would rather that people feel friendly towards me rather than be exacting about my title.  Perhaps when I wear my coronet (which is not very often) it would be nice to be addressed properly, but I find that on those occasions, such as at court last Saturday, people are more likely to bow at me and not speak at all.  (Am I too intimidating or something?)  Perhaps a short course, or a pamphlet, on courtesy and modes of address might be in order here.  It could include how to recognize the various Orders of Merit and Royal Peers, and how to approach and address them.  Also, what to do if you can't tell, and just basic courtesy, like, if you see someone struggling to unload and you're not busy, helping that person is a good way to meet them.  This suggestion applies to ladies as well as gentlemen.  When I was single, I helped lots of guys unload their cars.  Trust me, it's a good way to meet people.  From the other end, if you need help, and there are people just standing around chatting, try asking for it.  It took me 6 years in the SCA just to get an AOA, and even as a nobody, I didn't find it difficult to commandeer assistance when I needed it.  Just ask politely.

On a personal note, I would like to heartily thank all the people who helped set up our camp on Saturday morning, when we arrived late only to discover that Axel had to run off to a Chivalry meeting.  My especial thanks to Simone and her Lord, and to Lady Gwendolyn.  I don't know what I would have done without you all, and thank you for being gracious about my crabbiness.  (I don't take well to being deserted by my Lord.)

In service,

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