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Ooh, me! me! I'm interested in going to a sewing day! *jumps up and down waving arms* and Ascelyn, I think I even sorta remember where you live! oops... I delurked, didn't I? <BR>
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OK, so, since I am sending this email, I might as well add my 2c to the conversation about why the Barony is losing people. Here is my story.<BR>
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I have been here two years now, and although everyone I meet has been friendly to me, I do not feel like a part of the group yet. I have helped with loading/setup/teardown/unloading at a few events, sat gate at one, did scorekeeping at one (my first), assisted with cooking at one, gone to a few "classes" and get-togethers such as cooking guild, scribal guild etc and assisted with site medallions (oh, I still haven't gotten the containers back that I brought the stringed tokens to the site in).<BR><BR>
I have met some extremely nice people and would like to count them among my friends, but somehow it doesn't feel like friends yet. I don't know how to say this without sounding petty and childish, so however I manage, please take this with a grain of salt. Don't get me wrong...I don't expect people to take me by the hand and coddle me, but it all feels so one-sided. (ok I need to have my hand held when trying to find my way around as I could get lost trying to find my way out of a wet paper sack! but aside from that I don't expect coddling)<BR>
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Nobody in this group has made any effort to get to know me. I have tried to make friends with various people, yet I feel like I am at best welcomed as an extra set of hands. I have no friend in the group to take me around the way a lot of newbies do, and it is extremely hard for me to reach out. Without the occasional instance of someone in the group reaching out to *me* it feels as though I am and always will be an outsider. A great deal of this is only my perception, it is not backed up by the way I am treated, but nonetheless it is still all one-sided. I am the one who has been trying to connect with the group for the past two years, and it is still not reciprocal. <BR>
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Just to let you know, I am not looking for a best friend or a boyfriend... I just want to be a part of the group and have fun and help out too. I really miss the comraderie I had with my old group back on the east coast; after a dozen years of being very active in the SCA (in NJ/PA) I find myself floundering and unsure of how to proceed (here in TX).<BR>
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I *really* want to be an active part of the group, but I am new (to the group and to the area) and I am shy. It is hard for me to reach out to others and break into the "cliques" someone mentioned in a previous email. I have no single instance to cite to explain my feelings, because like I said, whenever I do reach out people *are* nice, but I feel as though if I never did another thing in Elfsea, I would not be missed. Indeed, sometimes I think it would not even be noticed. And being the one always doing the reaching out is exhausting for us shy folks.<BR>
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Lady Mairi Beswick, called Rua<BR><BR>
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From: aislyn_glynwyrd_fen@hotmail.com<BR>To: elfsea@lists.ansteorra.org<BR>Date: Tue, 3 Jun 2008 15:33:24 -0500<BR>Subject: Re: [Elfsea] Hospitilar and Sewing?<BR><BR>
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Lady Irina,<BR> <BR>I would be happy to host a Sewing day at my home. At present I believe Lady Elspeth is also hosting sewing days at her home in the northwest part of Fort Worth. As I am located in the southeast part of the barony (in the 360/I-20 area) perhaps one of our homes would be convenient for you. I am a fairly competent seamstress and I would be happy to help anyone that might need it.<BR> <BR>If anyone else is interested, please let me know and we can determine a suitable date. I would like to have an on-going Sew-Fest at regular intervals as well. Perhaps every other month?<BR><BR>I also have a very large back yard suitable for armoring up and very good lighting for night time fighting, just in case, someone one would be interested in that as well.<BR> <BR>Oh yeah, and a grill !!!!!<BR><BR>
<P align=left>Yours In Service, <BR><BR>Ascelyn of Glentewrde <BR>Seneschal, Barony of Elfsea & <BR>Central Regional Missile Marshal <BR>Per bend Sinister Gules and Or, a Unicorn Argent and a Rose Proper <BR><BR></P><BR>
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