[Loch-Ruadh] Sad Tidding

Tim yukon at ddsob.com
Wed Mar 31 20:58:08 PDT 2010

I'm sorry if my thoughts and feelings on this list has been noticeably
absent today but I have not had the capability of putting them into words
let alone verbalize them until now and I may still screw them all up.  At a
VERY early hour of this morning a part of me was unexpectedly and suddenly
taken from me.  I'm sure it is nothing compared to what Brighid, her family
or Bear's family has gone through but please hear me through.
Bear was not my friend....he was SO much more than that.  He was my
brother...part of my family.  Yes he was a Loch Ruadh brother and a House
Mac brother but he also was what I considered one of a few select "little
brothers".  I have known Bear for over 17 years which predates our
involvement with the SCA.  It just started with a guy I met at a BBS party
(only us oldtimers probably remember those days) who along with some other
folks on this list got me interested in this thing called the SCA in 1995
which led me to getting to know all of you fantastic people.  Our
acquaintance turned into a friendship that made us travel buddies and tent
mates at many SCA events including my only three Gulf Wars, the first being
the War that was washed away.  Bear had the unfortunate chance to pick the
downhill side of our tent and when the tent filled up with water, although I
had some water under my cot, his was under water.  I also had the privilege
to watch him squired to then Sir Aaron, later our King two times over.  
Fast forward a few years (and I'm bypassing some very fun and eventful
happenings including my fond memories of the Arthurian Company) and this
same young man was looking for some help and a place to stay and needed some
help till he go on his feet.  I had just taken possession of my house after
a lengthy separation and divorce and other than having one son that was
still living with me, I said sure, come on over, I've got a spare bedroom.
Little that I knew that over the next 4 and a half years with the exception
of a 6 month stint with Enron in Houston, Bear would become part of my
immediate household and family.  My parents came to know him, my kids came
to love him and my future and now wife, Francesca, came to love him and cook
for him as well as my son and I.  Some memories are too personal to relate
but he and I helped each other through some very tough times during those
years but when he told me that he had finally found the lady of his life and
would be moving out, although I was saddened to hear it, I knew he was
making the best decision he had made his entire life.  When he told me that
he had asked Brighid to marry him, I was overjoyed and saddened at the same
time.  When he told me the date of their wedding, previously unknown to most
everybody, Francesca and I had already decided to get married on the same
day so I couldn't be one of his bridegrooms.  At the last moment, Francesca
and my wedding date got moved forward one week so Bear and Brighid were able
to attend our wedding as were many of you and then we were able to attend
Bear and Brighid's wedding one week later.  Since then Brighid has also
become part of our family as well.  Francesca and I have shared many a meal
and movie night with Bear and Brighid both at our house and theirs.  I will
miss those movie nights.  I will miss my motorcycle rides with Bear.  I will
miss the phone calls and emails just saying, "Hey we haven't gotten together
in a while, let's get together".
My friends, this is only a small part of what I'm feeling right now.  I have
made and taken many calls today from crying children, shocked friends,
loving and concerned House Mac and Loch Ruadh brothers and sisters and yes
even Brighid.  It's taken well over 45 minutes for me to compose this email
but if I had to verbalize this into words, it would take much longer.  I
wish I could say I'm the originator of this quote but allow me to quote my
son Erik's comment earlier today when discussing all that was going on.....

"Dad, EVERYBODY loved Bear!!!!!!!!!!!"

I am proud to say I loved Bear as well. I share your grief at the loss of
Bear but I encourage you all to support Brighid in rebuilding her life.  I
will see you all on Saturday.


PS I know it's embarrassing to watch a grown man cry but you people are just
going to have to deal with it!!!! 

-----Original Message-----
From: loch-ruadh-bounces+yukon=ddsob.com at lists.ansteorra.org
[mailto:loch-ruadh-bounces+yukon=ddsob.com at lists.ansteorra.org] On Behalf Of
Sent: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 6:34 AM
To: Loch Ruadh List
Subject: [Loch-Ruadh] Sad Tidding

    It is with a heavy heart that I write this message.  Brighid called this
morning to let me know that Conor "Bear" Mac Namara passed away this
morning.  She has asked that you do not call or email her at this time.  Her
email goes direct to the phone and she needs to make calls.  Please respect
her wishes and send the emails to me, so that I can get the message to her
through her best friend Luke.  If you need more information please call me
as she does not want to repeat the events of the last couple of days.
    This has been a hard morning for her and she will need the down time.
Luke will take very good care of her and get information to her at the
appropriate time.  I am sorry to have to relay this message, but please keep
her in your thoughts as she struggles.

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