[Namron] FW: The Black Death - Remedies
Karen Sullivan
ksullivan6 at cox.net
Wed Oct 20 17:13:05 PDT 2004
"me thinks she protest to much"
Shakespeare
MURIEL at entelesoft.com wrote:
> "Just all getting along" won't happen. But I propose the following to
> limit our plague:
>
> 1. DON'T GOSSIP (don't discuss your or other's problems with or in
> front of uninvolved parties)
> 2. If you have a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.
> 3. If you don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the
> officer most directly involved with the issue, someone who shares your
> value system, Appendix A of Corpora, or some combination thereof.
> 4. If you believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not
> at an event or while performing SCA business) contact civil
> authorities. (for SCA-related civil offenses, please also contact SCA
> officers so they can coordinate proactively with mundane authorities)
> 5. DON'T GOSSIP
> 6. DON'T LISTEN TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they
> shouldn't. Just because someone you respect says something doesn't
> make it fact - everyone can be mislead or misinterpret a situation.
> If what they say worries you, see #'s 2 - 5.
> 7. DON'T REPEAT GOSSIP
>
> As I like to say to potential new Scadians - "The SCA takes all
> kinds". This is usually in response to a comment about some horrid
> person they met who was in the SCA and made them want to have nothing
> to do with us. Yes, there are all kinds - people you won't like,
> people who won't like you, and even really *bad* people who hurt
> others. When you encounter these people, its time to decide what you
> believe in and stick to it. My personal value system does not allow
> me the luxury of hating them. Even if I ever claim to "hate" someone,
> those close to me know that if that person were to ask me for even
> superficial help, I'd probably give it. But those are my values and I
> don't require others to follow them.
>
> Regardless of values, one behavior is clearly not helpful. If you
> take issue with someone and insist on discussing that issue with
> someone else who is not involved, you are part of the problem. This
> is called gossip - good intentions of "protecting" others do not make
> it not gossip. Just don't gossip. If you slip up and say something
> you shouldn't, apologize to your listeners and leave it at that. If
> you catch ME doing it - please stop me! Call me on it! Please!
>
> -Muriel the Long Winded
>
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