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<DIV><FONT size=2>Don't discuss problems? So we should not discuss that
Barrot is in the hospitle, or that our B and B's two new wonderful grandbabies
are here a little early? What about announcing birthdays, weddings, and
the like, may we gossip about those happy things?</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Muriel, I am not trying to argue with you, just to point out
that gossiping is not only human nature, but a vital part of how we interact
with one another.</FONT></DIV>
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<DIV><FONT size=2>Dagmar</FONT></DIV>
<DIV>Jennifer Jackson<BR>Discovery Toys, learning through play.<BR><A
href="http://www.discoverytoyslink.com/toysbyjennifer">www.discoverytoyslink.com/toysbyjennifer</A></DIV>
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style="BACKGROUND: #e4e4e4; FONT: 10pt arial; font-color: black"><B>From:</B>
<A title=muriel@entelesoft.com
href="mailto:muriel@entelesoft.com">muriel@entelesoft.com</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A title=namron@ansteorra.org
href="mailto:namron@ansteorra.org">namron@ansteorra.org</A> </DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Wednesday, October 20, 2004 5:27
PM</DIV>
<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> [Namron] Black Death -
Remedies</DIV>
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<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=2>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>"Just all getting
along" won't happen. But I propose the following to limit our
plague:</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>1. DON'T GOSSIP
(don't discuss your or other's problems with or in front of uninvolved
parties)</FONT></SPAN>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>2. If you
have a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>3. If you
don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the officer most directly
involved with the issue, someone who shares your value system, Appendix A
of Corpora, or some combination thereof.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>4. If you
believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not at an event or while
performing SCA business) contact civil authorities. (for SCA-related civil
offenses, please also contact SCA officers so they can coordinate proactively
with mundane authorities)</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>5. DON'T
GOSSIP</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>6. DON'T
LISTEN TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they shouldn't. Just
because someone you respect says something doesn't make it fact - everyone can
be mislead or misinterpret a situation. If what they say worries you,
see #'s 2 - 5.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>7. DON'T REPEAT
GOSSIP</FONT></SPAN></DIV></FONT></SPAN></DIV></SPAN>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>As I like to say to potential
new Scadians - "The SCA takes all kinds". This is usually in response to
a comment about some horrid person they met who was in the SCA and made them
want to have nothing to do with us. </FONT></SPAN>Yes, there are all
kinds - people you won't like, people who won't like you, and even really
*bad* people who hurt others. When you encounter these people, its
time to decide what you believe in and stick to it. My personal value
system does not allow me the luxury of hating them. Even if I ever claim
to "hate" someone, those close to me know that if that person were to ask me
for even superficial help, I'd probably give it. But those are my values
and I don't require others to follow them. </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>Regardless of
values, one behavior is clearly not helpful. If you take issue with
someone and insist on discussing that issue with someone else who is not
involved, you are part of the problem. This is called gossip - good
intentions of "protecting" others do not make it not gossip. Just don't
gossip. If you slip up and say something you shouldn't, apologize
to your listeners and leave it at that. If you catch ME doing it -
please stop me! Call me on it! Please!</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=1><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><EM>-Muriel the
Long Winded</EM></SPAN></FONT></DIV></FONT></DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=1><EM></EM></FONT> </DIV>
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