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<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>"Just all getting
along" won't happen. But I propose the following to limit our
plague:</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
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<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>1. DON'T GOSSIP
(don't discuss your or other's problems with or in front of uninvolved
parties)</FONT></SPAN>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>2. If you have
a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>3. If you
don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the officer most directly
involved with the issue, someone who shares your value system, Appendix A
of Corpora, or some combination thereof.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>4. If you
believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not at an event or while
performing SCA business) contact civil authorities. (for SCA-related civil
offenses, please also contact SCA officers so they can coordinate proactively
with mundane authorities)</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>5. DON'T
GOSSIP</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>6. DON'T LISTEN
TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they shouldn't. Just because
someone you respect says something doesn't make it fact - everyone can be
mislead or misinterpret a situation. If what they say worries you, see #'s
2 - 5.</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>7. DON'T REPEAT
GOSSIP</FONT></SPAN></DIV></FONT></SPAN></DIV></SPAN>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2><SPAN
class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>As I like to say to potential
new Scadians - "The SCA takes all kinds". This is usually in response to a
comment about some horrid person they met who was in the SCA and made them want
to have nothing to do with us. </FONT></SPAN>Yes, there are all kinds -
people you won't like, people who won't like you, and even really *bad* people
who hurt others. When you encounter these people, its time to decide
what you believe in and stick to it. My personal value system does not
allow me the luxury of hating them. Even if I ever claim to "hate"
someone, those close to me know that if that person were to ask me for even
superficial help, I'd probably give it. But those are my values and I
don't require others to follow them. </FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial size=2>Regardless of
values, one behavior is clearly not helpful. If you take issue with
someone and insist on discussing that issue with someone else who is not
involved, you are part of the problem. This is called gossip - good
intentions of "protecting" others do not make it not gossip. Just don't
gossip. If you slip up and say something you shouldn't, apologize to
your listeners and leave it at that. If you catch ME doing it - please
stop me! Call me on it! Please!</FONT></SPAN></DIV>
<DIV><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><FONT face=Arial
size=2></FONT></SPAN> </DIV>
<DIV><FONT face=Arial size=1><SPAN class=725293520-20102004><EM>-Muriel the Long
Winded</EM></SPAN></FONT></DIV></BODY></HTML>