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"me thinks she protest to much"<br>
Shakespeare<br>
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<a class="moz-txt-link-abbreviated" href="mailto:MURIEL@entelesoft.com">MURIEL@entelesoft.com</a> wrote:
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<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">"Just
all getting along" won't happen. But I propose the following to limit
our plague:</font></span></div>
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<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2"><span
class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">1. DON'T
GOSSIP (don't discuss your or other's problems with or in front of
uninvolved parties)</font></span>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">2.
If you have a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.</font></span></div>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">3.
If you don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the officer
most directly involved with the issue, someone who shares your value
system, Appendix A of Corpora, or some combination thereof.</font></span></div>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">4.
If you believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not at an
event or while performing SCA business) contact civil authorities. (for
SCA-related civil offenses, please also contact SCA officers so they
can coordinate proactively with mundane authorities)</font></span></div>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">5.
DON'T GOSSIP</font></span></div>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">6. DON'T
LISTEN TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they shouldn't.
Just because someone you respect says something doesn't make it fact -
everyone can be mislead or misinterpret a situation. If what they say
worries you, see #'s 2 - 5.</font></span></div>
<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">7.
DON'T REPEAT GOSSIP</font></span></div>
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<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2"><span
class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">As I like to
say to potential new Scadians - "The SCA takes all kinds". This is
usually in response to a comment about some horrid person they met who
was in the SCA and made them want to have nothing to do with us. </font></span>Yes,
there are all kinds - people you won't like, people who won't like you,
and even really *bad* people who hurt others. When you encounter
these people, its time to decide what you believe in and stick to it.
My personal value system does not allow me the luxury of hating them.
Even if I ever claim to "hate" someone, those close to me know that if
that person were to ask me for even superficial help, I'd probably give
it. But those are my values and I don't require others to follow them.
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<div><span class="725293520-20102004"><font face="Arial" size="2">Regardless
of values, one behavior is clearly not helpful. If you take issue with
someone and insist on discussing that issue with someone else who is
not involved, you are part of the problem. This is called gossip -
good intentions of "protecting" others do not make it not gossip. Just
don't gossip. If you slip up and say something you
shouldn't, apologize to your listeners and leave it at that. If you
catch ME doing it - please stop me! Call me on it! Please!</font></span></div>
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<div><font face="Arial" size="1"><span class="725293520-20102004"><em>-Muriel
the Long Winded</em></span></font></div>
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