NR - A matter of Honor

[Lori Campbell]

I've seen the requests to take this off-line, but due to the 
seriousness of the accusation, I will not.  This will be my last post 
on any subject to this list.

> Your Excellancy Silveraxe...
> The people who have the most fun didn't come to your event cause
> we didn't want to know who you were gonna get pissed off at and 
> threaten to take out of the S.C.A. next.

I feel I absolutely must reply to this as you seriously attack the 
honor of the most honorable man I know.

Your phraseology would seem to indicate to all that Sir Barn 
Silveraxe makes a habit of getting violently angry at people and 
threatening them.  In the entire 11 years I have known him he has 
never been angry enough to shout at someone in public.  That he 
did it even ONE time in 11 years is nothing short of amazing. I find 
it incredibly ironic that you throw this incident (which happened 
well over A YEAR ago) out to the forefront because it suits you.
Somehow I hoped for better from you.

To date no one (friend or foe) has asked Barn to explain why he was 
so angry that day.  To me that speaks volumes about the accuracy of 
the stories going around about it.  I can thank personally the 
handful of people who were close bye to the argument for taking it 
upon themselves to spread *their version of the truth* from one end 
of this kingdom to the other.  I pray that when you make a highly 
visible mistake someone responds to it with the grace you showed to 
others.

Barn and I both recognize that because of our titles we come under 
much closer scrutiny than most, however a little more willingness for 
our *friends* to forgive and give the benefit of the doubt 
(especially considering it was ONE isolated incident) would've been 
greatly appreciated.  I know for me at least it would've lessened the 
sting of their judgment considerably.

If I were ever to do as you have done and take it upon myself to act 
as judge, jury and executioner on someone, I certainly hope I get my 
facts straight from EVERYONE before I make public statements which 
could be VERY damaging to them personally.  You and a mere handful of 
others were present when the argument took place and you all know 
that Barn apologized *extensively* to those who overheard.  He began 
the conversation with no intention of it being anything other than a 
private conversation and quickly expressed his regret for the fact 
that it became anything else.  Aside from offering his heartfelt 
apology, there was little else he could do.  Perhaps you had 
something else in mind?

I assure you that if anyone ever comes to Barn again and insists 
it is their duty as a kingdom officer to *reprimand* our King they 
won't find him a passive listener.  Barn is very much a royalist and 
defending the rights of the Crown is close to his heart.

When people forget that Peers, Nobles, Royals, etc. are just 
as human as the rest of the world, it does them a grave disservice.  
Just like everyone else, we have bad days, migraines, limits of 
patience, etc. We put up with being snapped at, lied about, lied to, 
judged for every little nod of our head, gossiped about endlessly, 
and all manner of other things.  Considering how much time we spend 
under a microscope being judged it's nothing short of amazing that 
our tempers don't get the best of us on a far more regular basis.  

Here's your can of worms.
This petty comment of Merrik's in reply to my lord's post is just one 
example of why I will not support this region for principality at 
this time.  There are still far too many juvenile temperments at work 
here to convince me that we could handle our own Principality-level 
dirty laundry without name calling, fighting, and, in short, some 
kind of explosion ensuing.  

> I am not flaming a Peer for their opinion, I am flaming a 
> Peer who says their Region can't accomplish something...

I thought no flaming of any kind was allowed on this list.  Perhaps I 
should re-read my rules.  I guess we've got Karma at work here, 
'cause I'm usually a very even-tempered, soft spoken, tactful kind of 
peer.  Despite reports to the contrary, my husband is too.  However, 
you can only poke someone with a stick for *so* long before they 
start snapping back.  Even Peers.  

Kat  >^.,.^<
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