NR - Thoughts on a chilly morning......

[Carl Chipman]

Hiho, JP the frog here :)

Although the e-mails here have been fast and furious, I feel that the 
discussions occuring online are not "another action that show how divided 
we are".  I feel this way because

1) This online forum is only a small and vocal minority of the region.  The 
majority of the region is not subscribed to this list.  This was why for 
the roundtable discussions for principality were held at events, and not 
online.
2) Of those reading the list, only a small part are taking part in the 
discussions. Of the "NR-Re:" discussion I count six unique authors for 8 
e-mails.  Although you could arguably state that those 6 are indicative of 
the region, I'd say any statistician would disagree, and that those are 
just six individuals with opinions.
3) The anonymity and lack of non-verbal clues on mailing lists make it easy 
for people to misinterpret posts.

I feel, that in general the people in the north get along well together, 
have good times, throw great events, cook good feasts, and host great 
parties.

Are there troubles? Certainly.
Are they insurmountable? possibly, but probably not.

My advice (for what it is worth ) is this:

Anytime someone says something that hurts you, give them the benefit of the 
doubt that what they did was unintentional.  Let them know that what they 
said (or typed in this case) that it hurt you.  If they say it was 
unintentional and apologize, accept it.

Repeat the above procedure for any person who hurts you until they have 
proven that they like hurting you.

Jean Paul de Sens
proud wearer of rose-colored glasses :)


Carl Chipman
Nomadics, Inc.
cchipman at nomadics.com
http://www.nomadics.com

On Thursday, February 15, 2001 9:34 AM, Jennene Stanley 
[SMTP:mooharpist at mmcable.com] wrote:
> Greetings,
>
> <Anya sips her tea and contemplates what's going on>
>
>
> I've been thinking. It seems to me that we need to look at the larger 
picture here. What is going on in our region that some are motivated to get 
anonymous accounts and then make post for the only purpose of getting 
others pissed? It seems to me to be yet another action that shows how 
divided we are. I personally am getting rather tired of this anonymous 
stuff. If a person has a problem with what is going on they should have the 
courage and honor to speak as themselves. I may not like what a person 
says, but I will not deny him the right to say it.
>
> This is yet another symptom of the overall problem that is plaguing this 
part of the Kingdom. In my perception, there are group of people up here 
that do not have the guts to confront the issues in the full light. The use 
of anonymous names is an evolution of the past mode of behavior. Until now, 
people, who did not have the courage the confront an issue, would go around 
and do whatever they could to assassinate the character of the people whom 
they felt were on the opposite side. One can only take that so far. Now 
they must post under the fake names. (BTW- from what I understand the 
Route44 Gang refers to people playing out of Tarl and Stacia's living room. 
If I am mistaken then someone needs to correct this perception by using 
their real names. Until then, I will assume that this is coming from that 
Household)
>
> We have got some serious problems here. And being told to "play nice" has 
not been solving them.
>
> Anya
>
>
> PS. If we were all playing nice, I would not have had someone try to hack 
into my server last night though the link I posted on this list. I keep a 
log on the activity of the server and have a good idea where the hack 
originated.
>
> Jennene Stanley
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