[NR] Re: [Northern] Please make it stop!
dhartzm at dellepro.com
Sun May 20 14:52:50 PDT 2001
I was completely aghast when I read the post that Their Excellancies have
been asked to step down. I don't get out much to play so I know nothing of
the politics and gossips out there. It also distressed me to read that you
were considering on leaving. I am pleased to see that you have
What can be done regarding the situation of Their Excellancies? I was alway
proud to declare them as our Baron/Baroness.
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Sent: Thursday, May 17, 2001 11:45 PM
Subject: [Northern] Please make it stop!
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> I spent most of the evening writing this and just as I was about to post
> got word that the Crown has removed My Baron and Baroness. I don't know
> I feel like I've been kicked in the gut. I wasn't sure if I should post
> this or not. I'm stil not. But maybe it will help. The part about not
> going anywhere I'm not so sure about anymore.
> I've had a few people wondering "What's up with Robert?". It has
> a rough couple of weeks.
> At Namron's investiture last year I couldn't think of anything
> would be neater than to be Ulf's Bard, except to be Bard of Ansteorra.
> that didn't happen I resolved to come back and try again this year. As
> Beltane approached I found that I was looking for reasons not to go, and
> slowly I realized that I did not want to be the Bard of Namron because
> would obligate me to keep playing for another year. I was rather
> as the implications of THAT thought sank in. I realized that I didn't
> to do this anymore. I realized that I wasn't having fun anymore. There
> a lot of reasons, but one of them was that I'm just sick of seeing people
> care about being hurt. Another Is that I haven't done anything that
> challenged me in a long time. Nothing that required me to grow or learn
> stretch myself.
> I went to Eldern this weekend with the express purpose of seeing if
> could manage to have a good time. I didn't. So I began the process of
> divesting myself of many of the obligations I had assumed so that I would
> free to leave without leaving anybody in the lurch. I hadn't actually
> decided to leave, I was just setting things up where I could If I decided
> later. Then something happened Saturday night that didn't really sink in
> until after I got home. I overheard a conversation where someone was
> trash about My Baroness. And I didn't say anything because I didn't want
> cause a fuss. And after I got home and started thinking about it and
> realized that I had sat by and remained silent while someone attacked a
> person I admire and consider a friend and who has been very good to me
> the years, and someone who I know would have defended me in that
> and I felt ashamed of myself. Not the least because this wasn't the first
> time I had remained silent in this situation. I have listened to the
> sometimes believed them, and even repeated them. I went to an event to
> fun and relax and came home angry and ashamed. Something had to change.
> can't change what other people do but I can change what I do. It wasn't
> late to speak out. That's what prompted my post of a few days ago.
> Since then I've recieved several messages of encouragement both
> and private. Thank all of you. I especially want to thank those who had
> courage to admit that they too have been guilty of this. It helped. What
> helped most of all were the postings by Gillian and Aelfwyn about the
> memories that bring them joy. I'm feeling better. I'm not saying all
> because I want sympathy or because I want to make people feel bad. It's
> easy for me to be this open but I think that it's important to make people
> understand one very important thing. When you talk bad about someone,
> person is somebody's friend, perhaps somebody's mentor, maybe even
> hero. When you attack someone your words hurt more than just the person
> are attacking. Ultimately they diminish us all.
> I also realized that I was about to do something that I had
> been critical of others for. Not fighting for what I believe in. Folks
> not going anywhere. At least not without trying to make it better. I'm
> to stay and fight for what I believe in. I believe in Ansteorra. I
> in my friends. I believe that we can be better than we are. I believe
> if we work together we can do anything. I believe that we are the finest
> people in the world. We just need to be reminded of that occasionally.
> I believe that if I try hard enough I can make a difference.
> I want to leave you with a thought I had today that left me smiling
> the rest of the day. I hope the image will take hold in others the way it
> did me and make you look at things differently.
> When a fighter walks onto the list field he is doing two things.
> is pitting himself against his opponent to see who will be the victor, and
> is publicly in full view of everyone putting his or her honor to the test.
> He walks onto that field determined that win or loose he will walk off
> field with his honor intact. He will never strike from behind, or strike
> defenseless opponent. He will not take an unfair advantage and will treat
> his opponent with courtesy and chivalry. And win or lose they will walk
> the field as comrades.
> What if we conducted all our affairs off the field by that same
> standard? That win or lose we will leave with our honor intact. That we
> will never attack from behind or attack someone who can't defend
> That we will never take an unfair advantage and will always treat each
> with courtesy and chivalry, and that we will always behave as if we are
> publicly in full view of everyone putting our honor to the test. Because
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