[Northkeep] A possible solution

[Lynne Dawson]

I also agree with Tamberlin and Zahava, but would like
to add my thoughts as well. I do not tend to be shy,
but more cautious with approaching a newbie for fear
of giving them wrong information about our group. I
know the basics, but I'm quite sure I'm not
knowledgeable enough to give more than pat answers.
I'd also have to say that everyone I've met in the
almost 2 yrs. I've played has been friendly, some more
so than others. I appreciate them all, and quite a few
I have a tremendous respect for their talent and
knowledge. I am also saddened that I don't see several
faces that I first met 2 summers ago. I understand
that "life" can get in the way, but it seems that
we've undergone an epedemic of "life" in this last
year. I for one hope to see many of these faces at
Castellan, and would love to see them involved again
in the day to day game, and not just once or twice a
year at an event. It takes so many different
personalities, qualities, and talents to enrich our
Barony, that everyone should be able to play, find
friends and have fun, OR, WHAT IS THE POINT? Why would
anyone choose to spend an evening or a weekend with a
group of people and not have a good time? It is not up
to anyone to be responsible for someone else's
happiness, but neither should we push away or be
unkind thus ruining someone else's game. Northkeep is
a GREAT BARONY, and it hurts me that other groups in
Ansteorra don't always see us that way. We ALL pulled
together last year during a very difficult time to put
on a spectacular event. Being a little more friendly
and kind to each other as well as to newbies, should
be an easy feat for us. No one can read your mind, but
they sure can take what you SAY to heart. And, that's
all I have to say about that.

Marta
> I agree with her sentiments 100%.
>
> There are people in the Barony who I consider really
> good friends-- but that is really more because of
> life
> giving me more reason to see that person a lot more
> than at just SCA. (okay, or 16hrs in a car going to
> a
> week long event and then sharing a watery tent and
> then a 20hr drive home<<grin>>)
>
> But seriously-- I think that this goes back to the
> revel thing. I know that there are some people out
> there that don't want to do this. They may actually
> not really have the idea of the Barony being a big
> happy family, and that's OKAY! But I know that I for
> one would really like to have more contact with and
> the opportunity to become better friends with others
> in the group. I say opportunity to become friends
> because as we get to know each other more that of
> course doesn't mean that we will defiantly become
> friendlier, we'll just know each other better.
>
> I know that the schedule is very full. I know that
> there are a lot of events in the North. I was just
> looking over the event calendar and I think that
> there
> is room for a Friday or Sat. night *thing* every
> month
> for the next 4 months. What says everyone??
>
> Zahava
>
> --- Tamberlin <tamberlinofnk at yahoo.com> wrote:
> > I post this to add to HE Ainar's contemplation.
> >
> > Much to many's disbelief I belong to that group of
> > shy
> > people.  ALL of my outgoingness is forced.  I am
> > desperatly shy & frequently feel I'm intruding on
> > others time unless I know them VERY well.  My
> > personal
> > solution is to try to get to know people well
> enough
> > so I can read them & know when I AM butting in.
> One
> > of Northkeep's problems in my humble opinion is
> > we're
> > never around each other enough to get to know each
> > other that well.  With the result being the latest
> > round of posts.
> > We have one populace meeting a month (which not
> > everyone is capable to get to due to work etc).
> > Fighter practice usually twice a week.  Which not
> > everybody goes to because not everybody is into
> > fighting (sorry Angus but you really aren't the
> > center
> > of the universe-just teasing :). That's it.
> > Everything else is a specific thing at a persons
> > house
> > for a specific reason.  I've been to needleworkers
> > twice.  Not because I don't like Faolan or her
> cats
> > (ok maybe the cats with my allerigies :) I just
> have
> > no interst in sewing etc.  Both times I went were
> > for
> > specific reasons.  As a result I really don't know
> > any
> > of the seamstresses.
> > I think we need to look into doing something as a
> > barony on a regular basis.  Maybe it's a revel on
> > the
> > last friday of the month or having more then one
> > populace meeting.  Whatever.  People have to spend
> > time with each other in order to become friends.
> > And
> > frankly we don't spend time with each other.
> Don't
> > kid yourselves.  We are a barony of friendly
> > aquaintances.  And even then not always friendly.
> > I think this is a great barony to be apart of.  Do
> > not
> > get me wrong.  When Randel moved up here he opened
> > my
> > eyes about something.  He asked me what all was
> > going
> > on & when.  I told him & he said "That's it?"
> Just
> > something to think about.
> >
> > Tamberlin
> >
> > =====
> > ----------------------------------------------
> > It is said that love is blind but friendship is
> > clairvoyant.
> > ***********
> > Work like you don't need the money.
> > Love like you've never been hurt.
> > And dance like no one is watching.
> >
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