[Northkeep] what Lady Tia said (was the elfsea thingy)

rene chaisson renechaisson at yahoo.com
Tue Jun 10 09:19:41 PDT 2008

yes Lady, you are one of those I spoke of I have met, and thank you for that! 

zubeydah at northkeep.org wrote:  Quoting rene chaisson :
> I have only loosely played and many of you may not know who I am,
> but that's you fault, not mine. The SCA cannot survive if it hides within its
> ranks and shuns the future members because they don't know this person or
> that one. Introduce youselves, show us what you think the ideals we should
> carry on

Hi Tia:

I've been playing in Northkeep for about 6 years, give or take, and I don't 
know who you are. (Please keep in mind that I am *HORRIBLE* with names - faces, 
I usually do better with) I generally strive to wander up to faces I don't 
recognize when at Populace meetings and say, "Hi! I don't know you! I'm 
Zubeydah!". Mayhaps I've introduced myself in the past, mebbe I haven't had 
the chance.

So. Please consider yourself "Hello"-ed at. I'm Zubeydah. I do scribally sorts 
of stuff and waterbearing stuff and sometimes I do feast serving stuff, and 
even more rarely, I do unofficial childrens activity stuff, and sometimes I 
attend fighter practice and wiggle a bit. If any of that is of interest to 
you, or if I can be of help, please let me know. 

I also maintain a coupla websites - one of which is designed to help folks who 
aren't good with names and faces figure out who is who: http://northkeep.org. I 
don't have a listing for you: I'd love to get you added. Pictures and names 
together are a big help for the absent minded (myself included). (The website 
is having issues at this particular moment, but my hubby is working on it and 
it should be back up shortly.)

I would also like to suggest... If you play, as you say, "only loosely".. it 
may be that you aren't giving people the opportunity to develop any kind of 
relationship. People are social creatures, and we tend to gravitate towards 
what we know. That doesn't mean they are 'hiding' or 'shunning' you. It's just 
human nature. There's nothing personal or directed at you in it. I know I am 
that way, which is why I try to push myself out of my comfort zone and 
introduce myself. And as many people as I know, I still sometimes feel out of 
sorts and like I 'don't belong' when I attend an event by myself. 

Also, if you only play intermittantly, people **may** be looking at you and 
thinking, "I think I know her. I don't recall her name. I don't want to look 
like an idiot or rude by not remembering her name. Hrm." And by that point, 
you've already wandered by, and the moment for interaction is lost. 

Anyway, just something to ponder.

In service to the North where the Black Star shines the brightest,

-Zubeydah Jamilla al-Badawiyyah

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