[Northkeep] Please Stop

Catherine Lackey catanlac at yahoo.com
Mon Jan 18 22:05:20 PST 2010


    If I may offer a few word of explanation, and hopefully amelioration...
    This situation has come to pass because of a series of unfortunate occurrences.  When Willow and Jon bought the house, it was understood that it was a "fixer-upper", but the extent of the damage was not made clear and only after the closing was finalized was it discovered to be near-unlivability.
    Then, their ill health turned into Willow's need for open-heart surgery.
    People who have known Jon and Willow for a long time love them deeply.  So deeply their judgment can become clouded.  In desperation to make the house comfortable and safe when Willow comes home, the people who have worked hard to make that happen feel the pressure of a deadline, and so unwisely press others in turn, creating resentment and ill feeling.
    No one "owes" anything to Jon and Willow.  No one is obligated to work or contribute in any way, and Willow and Jonathan would be the first to say so.  They have asked for nothing and do not feel they are owed anything, I assure you.  The people who love them have perhaps made mistakes in keeping this so much before the populace, because of their love and concern.  Please forgive them that their worry has made misunderstanding and miscommunication.  And please do not let ill feeling fall upon Jonathan and Willow.  Two more generous and kind people I have never known.  They wish to share the resources of forty years in the SCA with all of us, and a rich resource it is indeed. 
    It may be that a moratorium on the subject is in order.  Help will be gratefully received, but never demanded.  I know they are grateful for all that has been done and what may be done in future.
    Thank you for the opportunity to comment.

                                                                                             Catrin




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From: Montega <montega at gmail.com>
To: The Barony of Northkeep <northkeep at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Sun, January 17, 2010 1:14:02 PM
Subject: [Northkeep] Please Stop

The emails making people feel like they are obligated to help Willow
and Jon with a non SCA/ mundane issue needs to stop and it needs to
stop
NOW. I understand these people need help, but their time in the SCA
has nothing to do with what goes on in their personal lives. Stating
that we made an oath and are therefore obligated to assist someone
mundanely is totally inappropriate. At this point I would expect these
emails to be considered SPAM. Willow and Jon, you need to step in and
make this stop. I do not intend to work hard getting people to join
just so they can be ran off by being made to feel like they have to
clean up someones mess.

Willow and Jon are not the only people in need of assistance.
Thousands of people in the SCA have issues and need assistance and
choose NOT to take advantage. Their lack of good judgment in the
purchase of a home in such disrepair does not constitute an emergency
on the part of Northkeep/SCA. I completely agree with asking for help
ONCE. This is harassment at this point and a gracious person would put
an end to it.

I am utterly shocked that this has been allowed to go on for so long.
To any new members, you are NOT required to give assistance mundanely
just because you joined our group. That is not how we play this game.
I offer a sincere apology as your Hospitaler, and hope this has not
left a horrible impression of our group. I am ashamed that this has
been made to be acceptable when clearly it is not. We are and always
will be a helpful lot, but we are not here to be taken advantage of.

Montega
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