SC - questions/kinda long, sorry

[KallipygosRed at aol.com]

In a message dated 6/16/00 8:47:26 AM US Mountain Standard Time, 
JGedney at dictaphone.com writes:

> The best way to approach this is to make nummy period recipes, and 
>  bring them to Potlucks, and dont say they are "period" until they are 
>  eaten and enjoyed. You'll convert more when they have a happy 
>  feeling on the tongue and in the stomach than trying to get them to 
>  discuss it intellectually, cause people tend not to want to change their 
>  rather hardly won first impressions. 

Absolutely. I totally agree. That was the point I was trying to make, try it 
in another forum besides the feast table **first**.  I never knew I was 
capable of such lacks of clarity in my meaning, myself. Sorry.

>yes we should all think about the import of our words.
>And _your_ words may have had the effect of preventing some other newbie 
>from ever approaching a peer or old-timer for advice, because you did make 
it 
>sound like all of us are going to ridicule and chastise them.<

Ow. Okay. Enough. I was speaking from my own experience as a newbie getting 
into cooking and how I was treated. I have deliberately **not** approached 
anyone new without first thinking how best to handle the situation of giving 
advice since my own experiences hurt so much. I apologize again if I was 
misconstrued. I know that none of us advocate the "Authenticity Mallet" 
(great term, btw). I wasn't saying we did. I was backing up someone who said 
about Balthazar, when Bathalzar was being debated, something along the lines 
of, "What Balthazar meant was that we appear in some posts...."  I no longer 
have access to that post on my system having been deleted by the system 
itself. So, I can't pull it up. I was agreeing with her (and I should have 
snip posted it, I realize now, to avoid all this confusion) that what we say 
in an attempt to save bandwidth or space sometimes can come across as--at the 
very least--curt and standoffish to people asking questions. And the same 
applies with one on one communication in person in a verbal context. And that 
those seemingly harmless insignificant comments, or intrepetations of 
comments, can be devistating to a newbie who already is going to take 
comments like that more seriously and more personally because they are 
worried about "fitting in" to the game. I was just trying to point out an 
area that creates miscommunication. Somehow, it didn't come out correctly or 
was perceived incorrectly. I'm still trying to figure out how I could have 
said it once without creating all this bruha.

Ah, well. Better next time when I have my next opinion. I hope.

Lars