SC - Getting over it. (Way...way off topic.)

[Michael F. Gunter]

> > What a tangled web YOU weave, Brandu!!  LOL!  That has GOT to be a
> > strenuous
> > situation....
>
> Actually when the marriage fell apart we were determined to remain
> on good terms for the sake of the two kids we had at that point.
>
> Not that it wasn't difficult, but it has enabled us to be more or less
> friends and good communication keeps the household's rules in
> sync to keep things as smooth and even as possible for the kids.
>
> > But talk about trusting an ex-husband!  You've got to give
> > the
> > new husband credit for that, at the very least!
>
> Well the fact that the "New" hubby and I were good friends beforehand
> helps.  Since he was not the reason that the marriage fell apart ( he was
> not going to get involved with her if it was that way, he respects his
> friends too much), and the marriage was dissolved through careful
> and mediated discussion, and with as little acrimony as possible
> ( no lawyers! If you can avoid using then don't! It is a lawyers JOB to
> screw the other party and make the whole process as adversarial
> as possible, If they don't they can get disbarred), we saw no reason
> NOT to continue on good terms.
> He is a nice guy, and they seem happy. Why should I be sour about
> that? Especially when I am doing better now in my life and am happier
> now than ever I have been in my entire life!
>
>
> ---The reasons that the marriage fell apart were Twofold: we did not put in
> the work to maintain the relationship with communication and mutual respect,
> and mostly, after both of us went through counseling (me for a 25 years
> long clinical depression, and I am 40 now), once we were cured we weren't
> the people we fell in love with.
>
> I am happy to say now that for the first time in most of my life since
> before my teens, I am not a clinical depressive, and I have not taken
> medications for 3 years now.
> Not that it wasn't hard work to get here. I basically ground and sifted
> my psyche, and forced myself to examine my life, and found a lot of
> unflattering truths underlying my self-delusions.
> (All things being equal, Self-Delusions have a lot going for them!)
> And I have to constantly monitor myself for old patterns and habits of
> thought. It is not easy staying sane, when you have a genetic
> disposition for clinical depression!
>
> And I have taken it to heart not to take my new wife _ever_ for granted,
> and keep communication free and constant.
> The fact that she does the same it a hell of a bonus! (and she likes my
> cooking!, which is fortunate cause she doesn't cook. She is from
> Manhattan, and whenever she needed to eat, "the world was just
> a phone call away, and it delivered!")
>
> Brandu
>
> Obligatory Food content:
> Anyone notice the similarity between Alosed beef and Negimaki?
> any other East Asian cuisine that we can find in the European
> corpus? I have a hunch that a lot of it is from the presence of
> the Portuguese, the Spanish and the English and Dutch in the
> bigger port towns, like Nagasaki, and Hong Kong...