SC - feedback requested

[Susan Fox-Davis]

Some friend.  Pfui.

Newcomers can get a little overwhelmed by input overload, admittedly.  However,
you acted totally from a desire to help.  How small-soul'd a "friend" considers
it necessary to rescue them from kindness?

Be at peace.  Keep up your good work.

Selene



Stefan li Rous wrote:

> Hello folks,
>
> Often I mention a few files in the Florilegium that I think might prove
> to be useful here. Sometimes in response to direct questions, sometimes
> just because I think they might prove useful.
>
> Something happened at our event this past weekend that has me rather
> bothered, and I wanted to make it clear that if folks felt I was doing
> the same thing here that someone would step forward, hopefully privately,
> and tell me so, so I can change things if needed.
>
> At the event I sat down with a "friend" and two folks new to the SCA.
> After talking a while with the three of them I pulled out one of my
> Florilegium "business cards" and gave to the couple and mentioned
> that they might find the newcomers section useful. When I did this
> my "friend" mentioned how good a resource the Florilegium was. The
> newcomer couple said they had been there but hadn't seen the newcomers
> section and we got off to talking about personas and cooking, with
> me basically asking what their interests were and making some referances
> to various sections or files that I thought they might like.
>
> During this my "friend" had walked away. I found out later from a friend
> that she had walked over to some other folks in the barony to find
> some folks to go "rescue the newcomers from Stefan". I felt (and feel)
> rather betrayed by this. Had she stayed there and changed the subject
> or simply said something like "Stefan, that's enough about your files,
> lets talk about something else", it wouldn't have hurt so much.
>
> It is possible that the newcomers felt I had entrapped them, but I
> didn't see any such signs and I don't think they made any effort to
> avoid me during the rest of the day. But it is certainly possible
> that I was being a social dufus and blind to the signals.
>
> So, anyway, if I am committing the same social faux pas here, someone
> please let me know and I'll cut back or whatever.
> --
> Lord Stefan li Rous    Barony of Bryn Gwlad    Kingdom of Ansteorra
> Mark S. Harris             Austin, Texas           stefan at texas.net
> **** See Stefan's Florilegium files at:  http://www.florilegium.org ****
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