SC - Cheese and the FDA
LrdRas@aol.com
LrdRas at aol.com
Fri Sep 22 20:02:59 PDT 2000
In a message dated 09/22/2000 3:23:24 PM Eastern Daylight Time,
ArianneShadowWalker at worldnet.att.net writes:
> I will most likely keep out of the way and very small. Usually, the people
are close-
> knit, and most know each other. I end up feeling a bit lost if I go
somewhere and
> don't know anybody. Being shy is a drawback..worse since I love people. I
dream
> of meeting 'royalty' one of these days, but I would most likely make a fool
of
> myself. I know it isn't true of all groups, but some seem to congregate
together,
> and an outsider is just that...looking in. *shrugs*
Being shy is a curse for all of us who are similarly afflicted. Being new is
something only time can cure and even those of us who have been in the
Society a while now can get the willies in a new place. I moved to a new
kingdom 5 years ago and its taken me a long time to get involved "properly"
(my emphasis) simply because like you, I hate feeling like I am disturbing
people. Sometimes, you just have to jump in there and disturb! Making a fool
of yourself only hurts for a little while. God knows I've done it enough. ;)
The best way to NOT be the only person at an event you know is to go to local
activities. Sewing circle. Dance practice. Fighter practice - even just to
watch. Heraldry or calligraphy nights if you are interested and want to learn
more. Any of the smaller, less "formal" local activities on week nights will
give you a chance to meet people in manageable sized groups. Get a few names
and faces together and then when you do get to an event, you'll have someone
you can talk to. Look up your local hospitaller too. These people are the
ones who help new people with questions etc and are generally gregarious and
helpful people. (Some groups use the term Chatelaine or Castellan instead...)
You can do it. We have faith in you. ;)
Ilaria
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