New People (was Re: To eat or not to eat (was: Re: SC - rare foods at feasts-rant))

[Olwen the Odd]

Where in the (mundane) world are you located???  Perhaps I missed it, but I 
don't recall seeing it posted.
Olwen


>From: "Isha ArrowHawk" <ArianneShadowWalker at worldnet.att.net>
>Reply-To: sca-cooks at ansteorra.org
>To: <sca-cooks at ansteorra.org>
>Subject: Re: New People (was Re: To eat or not to eat (was: Re: SC - rare 
>foods at feasts-rant))
>Date: Fri, 22 Sep 2000 16:53:29 -0500
>
>
>
>----- Original Message -----
>From: Catherine Deville <catdeville at mindspring.com>
>To: <sca-cooks at ansteorra.org>
>Sent: Friday, September 22, 2000 3:51 PM
>Subject: OT: New People (was Re: To eat or not to eat (was: Re: SC - rare
>foods at feasts-rant))
>
>
> > Gosh!  where are you?  We need to hook you up with a hospitaler or
> > chatalaine before you go to your first group, or a household which
>performs
> > that type of function (mine used to...), otherwise you won't get to 
>enjoy
> > anything!
>
>        I have a local group..Sternfeld Barony.  And I will readily admit,
>they are a friendly bunch of people...to each other.
>
>        The first few times I went to one of their practices, I went with 
>my
>next door neighbor, who is so popular she was never able to sit still long
>enough to explain anything.  Some lady (I don't even know who she was)
>stopped by and when I began asking questions, turned and walked off.
>Another told me that to join I had to pay such and such.  I asked for
>information like a book or something, to learn more about it, and was told 
>I
>had to pay for it.  I stopped going.
>
> > I know that folks can seem cliquish, especially if they're part of a
> > household or close group, but hopefully that's more of an impression 
>than
>a
> > reality... I'd hate to think that you are in any way discouraged from
> > participating fully because folks aren't friendly enough :-)
>
>         I finally started going again because well, practices are the only
>times I go out.  The dear friar came over and talked to me only becuse
>another very nice person was being overwhelmed with questions from me.  He
>went and got the friar.  :)  (Sorry hon, I forgot your name.)  :(
>
>         I've asked about period garb, to be told someone would get back 
>with
>me, and they never do.  I've passed out my phone number and email addy,
>nothing there either.  So, I sit and watch, then go home afterwards.  Or to
>Fazoli's where everyone congregates afterwards, to see everyone sitting
>together chatting merrily away in their little groups, and I finally have 
>to
>leave.
>
> > Sounds like you need to start by going to some local meetings and 
>getting
> > to know someone who will take you under their wing.  Groups often have a
> > person who specifically does this as service to the group, as part of
> > either the hospitaler's office or the chatalaine's (if they don't have a
> > hospitaler) office.  You should hook up with that person if possible
>before
> > you go to an event, as it's in their "job description" to help you out, 
>to
> > introduce you around and to help you get involved without stumbling.  If
> > you don't know who that person is, contact your group's Senechal or
>contact
> > person and they should get you connected.  If you dont' have a local 
>group
> > or anyone close enough to help, then write the Autocrat of the event (if
> > you preregister, or just ask at the troll booth if you don't) and let 
>them
> > know that you're new and a bit shy and would appreciate any assistance
>that
> > zie can give and the hosting group will likely be very helpful.  
>Courtesy
> > and Chivalry include providing hospitality for new comers, and there's 
>no
> > need for you to go to your first even feeling lost or intimidated in any
> > way.
>
>             Usually, the people at the practices are all in a group
>together, and since I don't like just barging in to the middle of
>conversations, I sit at one of the tables by myself or with my hubby.  I've
>never seen anyone go around asking if anyone was new, or had questions, or
>anything.  Sadly, this is the only group we are close enough to...as far as
>going to anything.  And when they move from Broad Ripple to Tech, we can't
>go at all because my hubby is claustrophobic, and the tiny space with no
>ventilitation to speak of makes him ill.
>
>             I'm planning to go to Cloved Orange, but I was told that I 
>have
>to wear orange...and my only outfit isn't.  And I have yet to learn the
>exact location of where it will be held...last I heard, no one even knew.
>
>             I'll fit in somewhere, one of these days.
>
>
>
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