[Sca-cooks] food manners, from the blog Tigers & Strawberries.
Adele de Maisieres
ladyadele at paradise.net.nz
Wed Nov 1 13:54:24 PST 2006
Jadwiga Zajaczkowa / Jenne Heise wrote:
>Rule Number One of Barbara.s Table Manners is simple.within reason, eat
>what you are offered, and do so graciously, even if it tastes like ass.
>
>
Or at least eat a little of it, if it's on your plate.
>This is the big rule that was drummed into my head from early childhood
>on: if you are offered food in someone else.s home, it is rude to turn
>it down.
>
Depends. Refusing everything is rude. Eating the roast chicken,
potatoes, carrots, corn, salad, yorkshire pudding, stuffing, and gravy
but saying "no, thank you" to the brussels sprouts is not.
>Because when someone cooks something for you, it is an expression of
>love and fellowship, and such an expression should never be spurned,
>because that is akin to spitting in someone.s face.
>
>
This is a little over the top. I cook. I feed people. I'm prepared to
accept that everyone doesn't like everything no matter who cooks it or how.
>Barbara.s Second Rule is a corollary to the first rule: in order to be a
>good host, make every effort to know what your guests do and do not like
>and can and cannot eat; in order to be a good guest, make your dietary
>needs known to your host ahead of time politely and remember that there
>is a difference between what you cannot eat and what you will not eat.
>
Oh, if only everyone who went to feasts understood the difference
between what they can't eat and what they merely don't like.
>For hosts, I say this: if you have vegetarians dining with you, please
>do not cook vegetables with meat and call them vegetables. It is not
>cute, clever or compassionate to do so. It is rude.
>
And apart from being rude, it's a very strange thing to do.
>Barbara.s Third Rule is a corollary of the First and Second Rules:
>please do not make ugly faces, icky noises or derisive comments about
>other people.s food.
>
Especially if you are over the age of four.
>Rule Number Four is not related necessarily to the other three rules,
>but it is very important nonetheless. When one is out at a restaurant,
>please treat your servers as human beings, because that is bloody well
>what they are. They are not there to be your personal emotional punching
>bags. They work hard doing a physically, emotionally and mentally
>demanding job in order to make a living wage, so please don.t make their
>life worse by acting like an arrogant ass with a sense of entitlement.
>
>
And while you're at it, be nice to _everyone_ who does menial work.
They are working for your enjoyment and often for some pretty unenviable
wages.
>And never ever say some stupid crap like, .The restaurant should pay the
>servers a living wage so that I don.t have to tip,. and then use that as
>an excuse not to leave a tip, because that is a crass bullshit excuse to
>just be a tightwad.
>
>
I utterly agree with the sentiment. The whole idea that people should
be paid inadequately and the shortfall made up in "tips" is insane. If
you live in a place where this is the norm, the way to handle it is to
leave a proper tip (there is no reason to make your server suffer for
your beliefs) and write to your Congressperson/Member of Parliament/etc.
about the issue when you get home.
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Adele de Maisieres
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