[Sca-cooks] Baby boys was Chuck vs Bottom Round reply from Isabella

Tue Apr 29 14:02:33 PDT 2008

I/we are coping too with raising small children; a 5 year old and a 1 year 
old. In Trimaris, all of the major kingdom events are at least a four hour 
drive from where we live, so I haven't been to a kingdom level event in over 
5 years, I think Dan has been to one. Just when Margaret was old enough I 
could think of becoming active in the SCA again, I found myself pregnant 
with Abigail, and had to put it on hold again  for a while. We are fortunate 
that we live in a very active barony, but between two little kids and 
school, I haven't even been to one of our four annual baronial events in 
over a year, and I maybe make one in three of the meetings.  The good news 
is that the barony is ticking along quite nicely without us, and everybody 
understands the demands of small children-I've noticed in my sixteen years 
in the SCA that when people have babies they pretty much have to take a step 
back for a while. Kudos to you for being able to plan a feast with a little 
one, but I think we can all agree that real life comes first; the SCA will 
still be there when you have some more time for it. I found myself 
inheriting the herald's office right before I went back to school, ( I 
didn't really want it yet but the sitting herald walked and I didn't want to 
do that) and had to hand it off after about a year because I just didn't 
have time for it. So, do the best you can and if anyone has a problem with 
it it's their problem, not yours, and remember that there are lots of us on 
your side.
YIS,
Isabella de la Gryffin
PS: I have found the internet an invaluable resource for keeping in touch 
with other grownups, thank you again to everyone who has responded to me 
when I had a question, It means a lot to me to be reminded that there are 
other people out there (;-)

Without deviation from the norm, progress is not possible.
Frank Zappa

To argue with a person who has renounced the use of reason is like 
administering medicine to the dead.
Thomas Paine
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Johnna Holloway" <johnnae at mac.com>
To: "Cooks within the SCA" <sca-cooks at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Tuesday, April 29, 2008 9:14 AM
Subject: Re: [Sca-cooks] Baby boys was Chuck vs Bottom Round

>I want to let you know that I had many days like this.
> You'd turn around and find out that he'd learned to climb the stairs by
> himself
> meaning that we needed still more gates and locks. Then there was the day
> when he mastered how to turn the computer on by himself and make it
> operate and he was only 9 months old.
> Every day was a learning curve and it was always something different.
> We didn't even have the luxury of a second car until he was 5 and  a
> half years old.so when
> I say trapped at home in a suburb in the country without sidewalks, I
> mean it.
> I applaud you for trying to stay in the SCA and active while coping with
> your active son.
> The one thing that I abandoned when my son was young was the SCA. I
> collected
> books and kept up with cookery and history, but I didn't attend an event
> for nearly 11 years.
> Here's hoping summer allows the two of you some time out of doors to play.
>
>
> Johnnae
>
> Barbara Benson wrote:
>>>  What most of the suggestions involve is an investment of time in place
>>> of money. And of all of the commodities that are scarce in my life
>>> right now, time is the most valuable. It has taken me over an hour to
>>> write this missive because I have had to stop to remove the following
>>> things from my offspring's hands: and empty soda can, a hanger, a
>>> styrofoam cup, bunny poop and a box of altoids. I have also had to
>>> change a diaper and extricate from behind a piece of furniture because
>>> he has not figured out how to go backwards yet. Mind you, I am not
>>> complaining, I am simply illustrating my point.
>>> I know that there are many, many of you out there that have managed
>>> many children and learned how to juggle all of this - and I applaud
>>> you. I am simply on the bottom end of this learning curve. ;).
>>>
>>> Well, I am sorry if I have bored the tar out of many of you, hopefully
>>> you quit reading when I got to the pity party part of the program. And
>>> Stefan, please know that I in no way intended to attack or offend you
>>> - your question simply set me off on a tear. You have excellent points
>>> and I wish I could answer them with a more positive answer.
>>>
>>> OK, gotta feed the baby,
>>>
>>> --
>>> Serena da Riva
>
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