[Sca-cooks] food dislikes, cultural mores and being polite. was Re: Re: P B & J

Antonia Calvo ladyadele at paradise.net.nz
Wed Aug 26 20:10:59 PDT 2009

David Friedman wrote:
>> I wouldn't dream of suggesting that my hosts forego cooking something 
>> they (or other guests) like because I don't care for it. I don't know 
>> why you're so wound up about it.
> I wonder if part of the problem is that you are imagining a dinner 
> party with lots of guests and lots of dishes, Judith a more intimate 
> occasion with one or two guests and a much smaller range of dishes.

Maybe a little... but my food issues are very slight, and I don't expect 
to be catered to regardless. I'm yet to go to a dinner of any kind at 
anyone's home and not eat the vast majority of what's served.  If 
there's something I don't care for, it's pretty well always a single 
side dish.  Don't get me wrong-- with people I know well, I'd be pleased 
and flattered if they chose to make something that they know I like, 
and, we do tend to be somewhat aware of each other's preferences.  I 
just can't imagine making a fuss over it for my own sake. (and being 
quizzed at the table about why I'm not eating something would be 

Antonia di Benedetto Calvo

Habeo metrum - musicamque,
hominem meam. Expectat alium quid?
-Georgeus Gershwinus

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