[Steppes] When Email Escapes!!

[Michael Smith]

I have this policy.  I don't say anything in an email that I wouldn't say in
person or to the person to whom I refer.  Further, I don't send anything in
what I ***KNOW*** is a private email that I would mind seeing posted to a
list or read to the subject.  Why?  Because you never know what may happen
once you hit "send" anyway.  I think this is a better policy than doing
something to help people who are making snarkey comments from looking
foolish in public.  I just think it's social Darwinism.  There are people
who can't seem to learn that gossip and hurtful comments aren't nice.  The
occasional self imposed negative reinforcement is the only thing that keeps
some of them in check.  Sorry if I've offended anyone, but that's just my
opinion.

Morgan

----- Original Message -----
From: "Steppes Seneschal" <steppes.seneschal at gmail.com>
To: <steppes at ansteorra.org>
Sent: Tuesday, January 11, 2005 6:48 PM
Subject: [Steppes] When Email Escapes!!


> This is a situation that many people ignore, but it is a real problem.
>  Here is how it usually starts:
>
> Someone sends a email to the list saying how cool a time they had at the
event.
>
> Someone else replies saying something like "yeah, cool time, but did
> you see what HL Sparky was wearing, man what was he thinking", and
> then hits send.....
>
> Moments later all the color drains from commenter's face, and fills HL
> Sparky's...
>
> Public and private emails fly about.
>
> More rumors, oh what fun.
>
> The problem is that the Steppes List is a "party line" so private
> comments don't stay private.   And yes, I have caused grief in this
> way more than once.
>
> There is a solution,  it would change the default setting to replying
> to the sender and not the list.  You would actually need to press
> 'reply all' to get your message to the actual list.
>
> I think it's a smart move and I had one of the moderators look into
> this a couple of months back.  It is not in my authority to make this
> change, but I think it would help.
>
> So, what does the group think?  Is it worth it to you to actually
> choose "reply all" instead of  "reply" to prevent hurt feelings?  I
> think it is.