[Steppes] When Email Escapes!!

[Cleek, James M]

I am not in favor of the change. While it may help some of us keep from
posting what we had hoped to be private to the list, I honestly do not
need any more email. So now anyone who replies to this post is going to
send their reply to the list and to me. As was said earlier we are all
adults check your email before it goes out to be sure it is addressed to
who you intend. Then follow Morgan's advice as it is the best way to
deal with this issue.

The one thing I do to help avoid hurting anyone's feelings is after I
write an email that has the potential to offend I do not send it
immediately. I wait until I cool down and then reread it and make
absolutely sure it says what I want it to say before I do send it. 

To often in email we lose the human interaction that cues us as to how
to interpret what is said. Then we try to read between the lines. When
reading an email try to give the sender the benefit of the doubt.
Believe that they are not intentionally trying to hurt you they probably
just chose their wording poorly.

Iames

-----Original Message-----
From: steppes-bounces+james.m.cleek=abc.com at ansteorra.org
[mailto:steppes-bounces+james.m.cleek=abc.com at ansteorra.org] On Behalf
Of Martha A. Compton
Sent: Wednesday, January 12, 2005 8:45 AM
To: Steppes Seneschal; Barony of Steppes - SCA, Inc.
Subject: Re: [Steppes] When Email Escapes!!


I am in favor of the proposed change.

Muireann

Steppes Seneschal wrote:

> Some people make more mistakes than others.  It is quite easy in fact
> to use language with a friend that a secondary party might be offended
> by.  The change I suggested it not intended to offer a haven for
> snarky comments.  It is a suggestion to promote privacy, and limit
> email traffic to only the intended receiver, nothing more.
>
> As I said, I have made this mistake.  It usually involved nothing of a
> snarky nature, but was not intended to be viewed by the entire world.
> Be glad that you have been fortuate enough to have avoided such a
> mistake.  Also, please be aware that there are many people that are
> not bold enough to state their true opinion in public, but feel secure
> enough to do so through email.
>
> I take it that you are not in favor of adding this safeguard to
> prevent  unintended email accidents, and lessen general email traffic.
>  Am I correct in this?
>
> On Tue, 11 Jan 2005 20:36:18 -0600, Michael Smith
> <morganbuchanan at hotmail.com> wrote:
> > I have this policy.  I don't say anything in an email that I
wouldn't say in
> > person or to the person to whom I refer.  Further, I don't send
anything in
> > what I ***KNOW*** is a private email that I would mind seeing posted
to a
> > list or read to the subject.  Why?  Because you never know what may
happen
> > once you hit "send" anyway.  I think this is a better policy than
doing
> > something to help people who are making snarkey comments from
looking
> > foolish in public.  I just think it's social Darwinism.  There are
people
> > who can't seem to learn that gossip and hurtful comments aren't
nice.  The
> > occasional self imposed negative reinforcement is the only thing
that keeps
> > some of them in check.  Sorry if I've offended anyone, but that's
just my
> > opinion.
> >
> > Morgan
> >
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