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<DIV>Did anyone tell you that you are pretty smaart for a kid? Jamie</DIV>
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<A title=gray.quill@gmail.com href="mailto:gray.quill@gmail.com">Quill</A>
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>To:</B> <A title=western@lists.ansteorra.org
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Sent:</B> Friday, March 14, 2008 12:35
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<DIV style="FONT: 10pt arial"><B>Subject:</B> Re: [Western] "respectful"</DIV>
<DIV><BR></DIV>Er... call me a simpleton and colour me confused, but I thought
that "respectful" would mean... "with respect". "Respect" meaning that you
look upon someone with a measure of esteem and honour. So it seems to me that
if you do anything "respectfully", be it to stand silently by, to speak for or
against, even to insult a person to their face, if you have respect IT WILL
SHOW... will it not?<BR><BR>(And for a quick example of how this fluctuates: I
have been surprised, even appalled, by the what seems to be a sudden
acceptability for friends to insult each other. It seems there's a deep level
of trust going on, that you can say all kinds of horrible, awful things about
a person as long as you're friends and it's understood that you respect and
even love each other despite those words.<BR><BR>Even with this being so, I
wouldn't dare engage in this kind of banter with someone like, say, Her Grace
Willow, or Mistress Oriana, for whom, though I consider these women my good
friends, I hold in such high respect that I would consider it deeply
disrespectful to even think of them in even remotely slandrous terms.
Meanwhile, when addressing someone I don't know very well, with whom I have
not established the parameters of my relationship, I will give them the
measure of respect I deem all humans to be worthy of until I know what the
boundaries are, and have set some myself. And so the way we show "respect"
changes with circumstances and the level of respect that is
present.)<BR><BR><BR>So... let's face it Westerners, we don't have a lot of
respect for that mysterious illusive "They" who've treated our groups so
poorly of late. Why should we? "They" haven't shown us much respect, and
respect is earned, not given. However, when it comes to the BOD we are now
approaching more than a faceless entity, a group of individuals who
<I>have</I> earned a measure of respect by being some of the people who do a
great deal to hold the Society (not just individual kingdoms, or regions, or
baronies or shires or households) together.<BR><BR>Furthermore, whoever these
folks are (because I don't know about you, but I don't know a one of them from
Adam), strip them of their SCA experience, their years of service and their
awards and Peerages. (Hmm... while we're at it, let's do the same for
ourselves, just for a moment.) What we have are people. Warm beating hearts
and worn hands. Human Beings. And as such, they automatically deserve our
respect.<BR><BR>So, I for one am not concerned with some elusive definition
for what is "respectful". I trust that Respect will always be shown not by
WHAT is said and done (or not done), but HOW it's said and done. And I trust
my Western (my Ansteorran, even) brothers and sisters to do what is good, what
is right and honourable and respectful, because that's who they are.<BR><BR>In
Service and with Love,<BR>Quill<BR><BR><BR>PS- These statements are not meant
as an argument against statements already rendered, but rather intended as
enhancements thereof.<BR>
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