ANST - Found at Warlord

[Ronnie]

>My point was to thank the children in a constructive way that would make
>them feel good about doing the job as waterbearer..or whatever, so they
>will be happy to be a part of this society, and feel like they would want
>to do service again.

Different strokes: Used to be, social acceptance and approval were enough
reward for good behaviors.  Cautious of what reality I may be teaching a
child to expect, I give sincere thanks as praise, with positive eye contact
and body language.  If another gives a child a rare small something more
tangible, the combination may be closer to a ratio of what they might expect
of life.  

Now, "above and beyond" actions -- especially inventive ones -- *have*
triggered me into thoughtful rewards, usually teaching them something fun
and useful, or occasionally a personal favor marking the incident.  I have
garb that's missing buttons I'll never replace because each reminds me of a
youngster, and an occasion, for which I cut the button off and sewed it to
their belt or garb, on the spot.  Complete with flowery forsoothness and
curtsies.  And a hug.  

And, later, seeing them showing it to other children, saying I cut it right
off my sleeve, and why.  
Ronnie. 

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