[Ansteorra] History/Enculturation/Cliquishness....

[J.G. Bretz]

> Good ladies and all who read this,
>
> Sorry, but I've got to step in here. I don't know how many times I've
> offered to help a lady carry something only to be rebuffed. I've had
> actually had women get offended that I offered to help, telling me that
they
> were *quite* capable of carrying something without a man's assistance.
Which
> is it? Should we offer or not? How can we tell that you want help or
don't?
> Body language doesn't do it, by the way - men, in general, aren't good at
> interpreting it.
>
> There have also been several occasions where I've helped various women
carry
> various things throughout the day, only to be called down and criticized
on
> the one time that I didn't see a lady with a burden or was unable to help.
> It seems to me that I'm damned if I do and damned if I don't and will be
> criticized either way.
>
> Awaiting the fire,
> Pendaran

 Okay I have to admit I am 100% guilty of not accepting assistance.  I feel
really goofy having someone carry my basket, or single chair.  I will try
and do better. :-)

I did have a funny instance where a gentleman asked to help me.  I had my
ice chest and my basket, and he asked if he could take my heavy item.  I
gave him the basket on top.  He was surprised that I did that, and asked for
the ice chest.  I replied that the basket was indeed the heavier item.
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HL Biatrichi di Palermo
Seer to the nobility of since 1492

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