[Ansteorra] Awards and Manners Was--> Things to think about....

LEE LEMONS lemonslee at prodigy.net
Wed Jul 24 23:37:31 PDT 2002


Greetings Lady Maria!

You brought up a very valid point - many take for
granted the work that is done, especially the behind
the scenes work, and perhaps it's taken for granted
that someone else said the "Thank you so much for the
work you're doing."

I think we all should take a moment and thank some one
at an event, to show our appreciation, because it just
might turn out that our "thank you" might be the only
one heard that day.

Curstaidh


--- CE Huse/Lady Maria Cabeca de Vaca
<cehuse at sbcglobal.net> wrote:
> Hola!
>
> I have been watching this thread with some interest
> the past couple of days.
> Awards have become a touchy subject for me lately.
>
> I have been playing for only 3 years now. Every
> event I go to, I work my
> rear end off. I have washed dishes, watched and fed
> other people's children,
> water-beared, I've 2 offices consecutively, for a
> time I Chirurgeoned, and
> even stepped up when there was a needed for a hand
> in other folks campsites.
> I got my AoA before my 12 month anniversary. Why did
> I do all this work? Was
> it for an award? Was it for "political power"? No
> and No. I did it because I
> thought that my hard work was appreciated and I
> looked forward to someone
> saying a simple "thanks".
>
> That was over two years ago. I have still worked my
> butt off at several
> events and only 2 people have said thank you. I have
> even watched as my 8
> year son and 9 year old daughter worked so very hard
> at events too and not
> been thanked...this hurts me deeply. This is just
> bad manners folks and
> there is no excuse for bad manners! To be truthful,
> I'm sick and tired of
> working so very hard just to have the people I have
> helped turn their backs
> and walk off. I joined the SCA because I thought I
> would meet kind, generous
> and polite people. This hurts me to ask this
> but...Was I wrong in this
> assumption?
>
> Awards are pieces of paper (some come with little
> bits of leather, metal or
> cloth to hang on your clothes) that mean alot to
> those in the SCA. But what
> do they mean to the mundane world that we must live
> in? Not a thing. I agree
> with Gilli, awards are gifts. But what I don't agree
> with is that they are
> gifs from the crown. They are gifts from your
> friends and acquaintances
> because it is your friends and acquaintances that
> recommend you for an
> award. Without them, the crown would never know what
> you have done.
>
> I have been watching the last few years as people
> have left and those that
> have just quit working events because they weren't
> thanked for their hard
> work. If we want more people helping with events or
> getting help with your
> personal items, then it is high time we start using
> a bit of manners and say
> a simple thank you to those who have helped you.
>
> I'm sorry that this post has come off a bit brusque,
> but this has just hit a
> sore spot with me.
>
> Yours in Service,
> Maria
>
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