[Elfsea] Why people are not staying

pcrandal at sbcglobal.net pcrandal at sbcglobal.net
Tue Jun 3 12:33:45 PDT 2008


Thank you Cid, you are a refreshing breeze in
these stormy times. 
I hope that both you and your friends find a
place. 

Crandall, Olde Phart 

--- Cid Tyer <cidsound at gmail.com> wrote:

> Good morning lords and ladies -
> 
> It has been some time since I have been active
> - Warlord was really my first
> event in several years and has served as a
> spring board to get myself going
> again.  The reason for going was to bring a
> young couple that specifically
> asked me to take them to an SCA event.
> 
> I'm writing this because I have to dispute that
> the vigil specific to
> Warlord was a private party; maybe that was the
> original intent.  I did know
> several people in the party and actually
> encountered Duke Miguel (I believe
> that is his current title, if not please
> correct me!) who made a point of
> inviting myself and the others that were with
> me.  I actually drug the
> husband of the couple almost kicking and
> screaming to the party because he
> thought that the people "with the pointy hats"
> would be rude, stuck up and
> boring.  Literally within five minutes of
> having arrived and introducing him
> to several people whom I felt would be patient
> with him - who also "wore
> shiny pointy hats" this young couple was out of
> my hands and having a very
> grand time being introduced to people and
> learning about who they were, what
> they did, and how they supported the kingdom. 
> I believe they finally
> retired around 3am with a thoroughly changed
> view of "shiny pointy hats".
> The absolute warmth and patience with which
> they were accepted into a
> ceremony they didn't understand is a credit to
> our peers.  I don't think the
> issue lies so much with those who have attained
> a rank, it is the perception
> of others as to what they must be like because
> they're a ........ (insert
> appropriate rank and title).  I think perhaps a
> little more attention on
> both sides would do much service.
> 
> A good deal of this I feel is perception.  When
> I joined the SCA I was 18
> and was very active and after very little
> exposure I realized that those
> people with the brass hats were not people to
> be afraid of or given much
> room - they're there to help and with very
> little introduction I've found
> them to be great people who readily toss in
> some advice or even help.  A
> handful of the people who were very influential
> for my first period in the
> SCA were people who were of one rank or another
> and I found that I learned
> much from them and still continue to learn from
> them - because I ask.  Maybe
> I have fewer reservations about approaching
> people and asking questions than
> others, but I find that people don't get what
> they want because they don't
> ask.
> 
> These are my thoughts.  Take them or leave them
> for what they're worth.
> 
> In Service,
> Lady Irina Radokovaia
> (Cid)
> -- 
> "My heart is red & sweet, and I know it is
> sweet because what ever passes
> near me puts out its tongue to me." --Sitting
> Bull
> >
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