[Loch-Ruadh] Sad Tidding

PBW PBW_RN at charter.net
Thu Apr 1 07:02:58 PDT 2010


I too first met Bear via the BBS days, long before I even knew what the SCA 
was. His online nick BBS was "DreamBearFireWind" when I met him. Bear has 
been a part of so many of our lives in so many ways. Mine and Robs kids have 
grown up with "Uncle Bear". Bear did not stay with Rob and I near as long as 
he did with you (he was only w/ us a couple months) but one thing about Bear 
was he was part of the family no matter where he went or where he stayed.


----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Tim" <yukon at ddsob.com>
To: "'Shire of Loch Ruadh, Kingdom of Ansteorra, SCA,Inc.'" 
<loch-ruadh at lists.ansteorra.org>
Sent: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 10:58 PM
Subject: Re: [Loch-Ruadh] Sad Tidding

> I'm sorry if my thoughts and feelings on this list has been noticeably
> absent today but I have not had the capability of putting them into words
> let alone verbalize them until now and I may still screw them all up.  At 
> a
> VERY early hour of this morning a part of me was unexpectedly and suddenly
> taken from me.  I'm sure it is nothing compared to what Brighid, her 
> family
> or Bear's family has gone through but please hear me through.
> Bear was not my friend....he was SO much more than that.  He was my
> brother...part of my family.  Yes he was a Loch Ruadh brother and a House
> Mac brother but he also was what I considered one of a few select "little
> brothers".  I have known Bear for over 17 years which predates our
> involvement with the SCA.  It just started with a guy I met at a BBS party
> (only us oldtimers probably remember those days) who along with some other
> folks on this list got me interested in this thing called the SCA in 1995
> which led me to getting to know all of you fantastic people.  Our
> acquaintance turned into a friendship that made us travel buddies and tent
> mates at many SCA events including my only three Gulf Wars, the first 
> being
> the War that was washed away.  Bear had the unfortunate chance to pick the
> downhill side of our tent and when the tent filled up with water, although 
> I
> had some water under my cot, his was under water.  I also had the 
> privilege
> to watch him squired to then Sir Aaron, later our King two times over.
> Fast forward a few years (and I'm bypassing some very fun and eventful
> happenings including my fond memories of the Arthurian Company) and this
> same young man was looking for some help and a place to stay and needed 
> some
> help till he go on his feet.  I had just taken possession of my house 
> after
> a lengthy separation and divorce and other than having one son that was
> still living with me, I said sure, come on over, I've got a spare bedroom.
> Little that I knew that over the next 4 and a half years with the 
> exception
> of a 6 month stint with Enron in Houston, Bear would become part of my
> immediate household and family.  My parents came to know him, my kids came
> to love him and my future and now wife, Francesca, came to love him and 
> cook
> for him as well as my son and I.  Some memories are too personal to relate
> but he and I helped each other through some very tough times during those
> years but when he told me that he had finally found the lady of his life 
> and
> would be moving out, although I was saddened to hear it, I knew he was
> making the best decision he had made his entire life.  When he told me 
> that
> he had asked Brighid to marry him, I was overjoyed and saddened at the 
> same
> time.  When he told me the date of their wedding, previously unknown to 
> most
> everybody, Francesca and I had already decided to get married on the same
> day so I couldn't be one of his bridegrooms.  At the last moment, 
> Francesca
> and my wedding date got moved forward one week so Bear and Brighid were 
> able
> to attend our wedding as were many of you and then we were able to attend
> Bear and Brighid's wedding one week later.  Since then Brighid has also
> become part of our family as well.  Francesca and I have shared many a 
> meal
> and movie night with Bear and Brighid both at our house and theirs.  I 
> will
> miss those movie nights.  I will miss my motorcycle rides with Bear.  I 
> will
> miss the phone calls and emails just saying, "Hey we haven't gotten 
> together
> in a while, let's get together".
> My friends, this is only a small part of what I'm feeling right now.  I 
> have
> made and taken many calls today from crying children, shocked friends,
> loving and concerned House Mac and Loch Ruadh brothers and sisters and yes
> even Brighid.  It's taken well over 45 minutes for me to compose this 
> email
> but if I had to verbalize this into words, it would take much longer.  I
> wish I could say I'm the originator of this quote but allow me to quote my
> son Erik's comment earlier today when discussing all that was going 
> on.....
> "Dad, EVERYBODY loved Bear!!!!!!!!!!!"
> I am proud to say I loved Bear as well. I share your grief at the loss of
> Bear but I encourage you all to support Brighid in rebuilding her life.  I
> will see you all on Saturday.
> Sean
> PS I know it's embarrassing to watch a grown man cry but you people are 
> just
> going to have to deal with it!!!!
> -----Original Message-----
> From: loch-ruadh-bounces+yukon=ddsob.com at lists.ansteorra.org
> [mailto:loch-ruadh-bounces+yukon=ddsob.com at lists.ansteorra.org] On Behalf 
> Of
> Aingeal
> Sent: Wednesday, March 31, 2010 6:34 AM
> To: Loch Ruadh List
> Subject: [Loch-Ruadh] Sad Tidding
>    It is with a heavy heart that I write this message.  Brighid called 
> this
> morning to let me know that Conor "Bear" Mac Namara passed away this
> morning.  She has asked that you do not call or email her at this time. 
> Her
> email goes direct to the phone and she needs to make calls.  Please 
> respect
> her wishes and send the emails to me, so that I can get the message to her
> through her best friend Luke.  If you need more information please call me
> as she does not want to repeat the events of the last couple of days.
> 817-480-2444
>    This has been a hard morning for her and she will need the down time.
> Luke will take very good care of her and get information to her at the
> appropriate time.  I am sorry to have to relay this message, but please 
> keep
> her in your thoughts as she struggles.
> Aingeal
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