[Namron] Black Death - Remedies

[Jennifer]

Don't discuss problems?  So we should not discuss that Barrot is in the hospitle, or that our B and B's two new wonderful grandbabies are here a little early?  What about announcing birthdays, weddings, and the like, may we gossip about those happy things?

Muriel, I am not trying to argue with you, just to point out that gossiping is not only human nature, but a vital part of how we interact with one another.


Dagmar
Jennifer Jackson
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  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: muriel at entelesoft.com 
  To: namron at ansteorra.org 
  Sent: Wednesday, October 20, 2004 5:27 PM
  Subject: [Namron] Black Death - Remedies


  "Just all getting along" won't happen.  But I propose the following to limit our plague:

  1.  DON'T GOSSIP  (don't discuss your or other's problems with or in front of uninvolved parties) 
  2.  If you have a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.
  3.  If you don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the officer most directly involved with the issue, someone who shares your value system, Appendix A of Corpora, or some combination thereof.
  4.  If you believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not at an event or while performing SCA business) contact civil authorities. (for SCA-related civil offenses, please also contact SCA officers so they can coordinate proactively with mundane authorities)
  5. DON'T GOSSIP
  6. DON'T LISTEN TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they shouldn't. Just because someone you respect says something doesn't make it fact - everyone can be mislead or misinterpret a situation.  If what they say worries you, see #'s 2 - 5.
  7. DON'T REPEAT GOSSIP

  As I like to say to potential new Scadians - "The SCA takes all kinds".  This is usually in response to a comment about some horrid person they met who was in the SCA and made them want to have nothing to do with us.  Yes, there are all kinds - people you won't like, people who won't like you, and even really *bad* people who hurt others.   When you encounter these people, its time to decide what you believe in and stick to it.  My personal value system does not allow me the luxury of hating them.  Even if I ever claim to "hate" someone, those close to me know that if that person were to ask me for even superficial help, I'd probably give it.  But those are my values and I don't require others to follow them. 

  Regardless of values, one behavior is clearly not helpful.  If you take issue with someone and insist on discussing that issue with someone else who is not involved, you are part of the problem.  This is called gossip - good intentions of "protecting" others do not make it not gossip.  Just don't gossip.  If you slip up and say something you shouldn't, apologize to your listeners and leave it at that.  If you catch ME doing it - please stop me!  Call me on it!  Please!

  -Muriel the Long Winded




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