[Namron] FW: The Black Death - Remedies

[Karen Sullivan]

"me thinks she protest to much"
Shakespeare

MURIEL at entelesoft.com wrote:

> "Just all getting along" won't happen.  But I propose the following to 
> limit our plague:
>  
> 1.  DON'T GOSSIP  (don't discuss your or other's problems with or in 
> front of uninvolved parties)
> 2.  If you have a problem with someone, deal with THEM personally.
> 3.  If you don't know how to deal with them, seek advice - from the 
> officer most directly involved with the issue, someone who shares your 
> value system, Appendix A of Corpora, or some combination thereof.
> 4.  If you believe someone has broken civil law in mundane life (not 
> at an event or while performing SCA business) contact civil 
> authorities. (for SCA-related civil offenses, please also contact SCA 
> officers so they can coordinate proactively with mundane authorities)
> 5. DON'T GOSSIP
> 6. DON'T LISTEN TO GOSSIP - Sometimes people slip and say things they 
> shouldn't. Just because someone you respect says something doesn't 
> make it fact - everyone can be mislead or misinterpret a situation.  
> If what they say worries you, see #'s 2 - 5.
> 7. DON'T REPEAT GOSSIP
>  
> As I like to say to potential new Scadians - "The SCA takes all 
> kinds".  This is usually in response to a comment about some horrid 
> person they met who was in the SCA and made them want to have nothing 
> to do with us.  Yes, there are all kinds - people you won't like, 
> people who won't like you, and even really *bad* people who hurt 
> others.   When you encounter these people, its time to decide what you 
> believe in and stick to it.  My personal value system does not allow 
> me the luxury of hating them.  Even if I ever claim to "hate" someone, 
> those close to me know that if that person were to ask me for even 
> superficial help, I'd probably give it.  But those are my values and I 
> don't require others to follow them.
>  
> Regardless of values, one behavior is clearly not helpful.  If you 
> take issue with someone and insist on discussing that issue with 
> someone else who is not involved, you are part of the problem.  This 
> is called gossip - good intentions of "protecting" others do not make 
> it not gossip.  Just don't gossip.  If you slip up and say something 
> you shouldn't, apologize to your listeners and leave it at that.  If 
> you catch ME doing it - please stop me!  Call me on it!  Please!
>  
> -Muriel the Long Winded
>
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