[Namron] Period Police

[liz wilkerson]

Going to have to come out of lurk mode for a minute, please pardon the bandwidth.

Chass, I am sorry you had the misfortune to run into such a person. As for how to handle such:

 I've been on both sides of this problem. I have come to terms with an ugly fact: I'm a needlejock. I'm in love with embroidery and fabric. I have a field day taking string and making something pretty and useful out of it. I love taking flat yardage and making fun things to wear out of it. Thats what I do, and I can only apologize for it. We've all got our "things" that drew us here. I'm dating a gentleman who adores making things to smack people with. Frankly I dont get it. Nothing makes him happier than duct tape and scrap metal. I can only smile and nod because I cannot comprehend why ihe loves it so.  I'm sure I give him the look he gives me when I show him the next stitch I'm using on his favor. Blank incomprehension coupled with  faint amusement.

 There are times when I get called a garb nazi, period police and other less printable words. And I have also been taken to task and even belittled because x y and z was "wrong" with my outfit/current project. To echo ma cher barons sentiment: when you love something, you can rattle on about it and scare the daylights out of someone who realllly only wanted to tell you it was cool looking, not know everything there is to know about it. I know I've gone into a 15 minute speel about the magic of underarm gussets and scared/bored people to death. When that happens, please forgive us. It's only a matter of enthusiasm, not maliciousness. 

There are people out there who just flat out dont know any better. Maybe new, maybe isolated, maybe just a lil bit dense at times. Maybe they are flush with discovery and prattling on about the newest thing they learned. They really might not mean to insult or offend, but do anyway. 

And then there are the people out to make themselves feel better at someone elses expense. The sca gives another culture, another society to rise in, to become recognized in. There are times when the pursuit of that becomes very important to people, and when that happens, it IS possible to cross the line between meaning to "help" and being insulting and offensive. If you're dealing with someone who has crossed that line, the last thing, imho, you should do is return the favor. If they are trying to hurt you. upset you, dont let them. Why let petty brutality and meaness win? I know, easier said than done. I've left the society before over things like this, and all I hurt was myself. They didnt care. 

So when faced with something like that, be as kind as you can, but let them know that there are many ways to play the game. They are welcome to theirs, but kindly leave you to yours. 

beaux

 

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